Hi all. I am new to this site. My Mum was diagnosed with COPD a few weeks ago this has made her world come crashing down and is now going through a state of depression. She is a member of this group and wrote a question a few days ago regarding breathlessness but it was me who sat with her and encouraged her. I thought she was getting through the initial shock (she didn't even want to phone the helpline) and her mood picked up a bit when I told her about all the wonderful people on this site. She visited the dr the other day who prescribed Anti depressants and told her to forget she had COPD and to let them deal with it. I have tried everything to help her, encouraged her to exercise and to practise the pursed lip breathing. She has now told me to stop looking on this site as when I talk about it she feels her heart racing. She doesn't want to do anything and when I invite her to come out somewhere she says "Maybe but I don't know how I will feel" I have gone from being upset with the prognosis to feeling angry because I feel she is not helping herself. She said she wants to wait to see a consultant so she knows exactly what is wrong and how bad it is.
What do I do now? Shall I keep on at her to exercise and get out or just leave it? It's very hard reasoning with someone with depression and no one will ever know how someone feels unless they are going through it themselves but I just don't know what to do for the best anymore.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
You are all wonderful people