It's got nothing to do with my lungs it's my eating feel like Ian on a losing battle with it I no this site isn't for this problem just really stuck at the moment and don't want to join any other site
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I talked to my pulmonary nurse who referred me to a dietician. Maybe you can ask too?
Its not like that toci but thankyou xx
You sound as if you need more support than you have now. Perhaps you could talk to your doctor and ask for a referral. My friends daughter has been ill with an rating disorder (we live in Yorkshire) and was able to be referred to a specialist team who dealt with eating. She has been helped with therapy and dieticians etc. I wonder if there is something similar in your area? Perhaps the blf helpline may have some contacts. It is dreadful when food becomes such a problem. Please try to ask your doctor or respiratory team for help and just keep asking. With love and kind wishes TAD x x
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Hi Pamela
Hope Im right ... you have recently stopped smoking?
This can make the need to eat, especially sweet things very hard to resit
Apparently, so I have read, one of the effects of nicotine is to cause a small but significant 'sugar rush' as it causes sugar to be released into the blood from our 'natural reserves', this is why quitting makes us want to eat more, we have been hooked into regular sugar 'hits' during the day.
This is why people,including me, gain weight when we quit, we are replacing the sugar hit with biccys and choc etc.
I gained 2+ stone in 18 months, and have now taken about 18 months to lose 1 and half stone. I no longer feel the need for sugar.... and just half a stone to go .... very slow dieter me, 3lbs lost over two months and usually one or two gained, but overall pattern is very slowly downwards.
If this is the reason you feel food is becoming an issue ... stick with it, the benefits of giving up smoking are greater than anything, you can loose the weight later.
(btw if the issue is being underweight then I have no experience, tho I am sure there are those here who have)
All the best Pam
Keep strong, think positive
Bethxx
Thankyou xxxx
just say what ever you want if it will make you feel better we are all here to help you if we can xxx
Just lost my blooming reply - gone up in smoke (pardon the pun)
Giving up smoking comes with problems such as weight. If you need to lose weight, try weight loss resources. Google it and study it. I think also your activity helps to lose weight, too. Being somewhat sedentary has made me put on weight. Curses +++
Love Annieseed x
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Thankyou everyone for your replies and Ian so sorry for putting all this on you.s I've,have,got an eaten disorder anorexia Ian embarrassed to say that because Ian a 46 old,woman who should no better but it's an horrible dieasese that's destroying me and my love ones around me and I really don't no which way to turn anymore my gp is aware of it and I am under a councellor about it but feel like Ian at a,standstill with it again sorry for putting this on you all xxx
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You. May find some answers at.
eating problems are common for people with lung conditions. It takes a lot of oxygen to eat.
Thankyou xxx
Dear Pamela, I'm so sorry that you're suffering in this way and I wish I could help in some way but know I can't beyond what the others say. They are right though, try giving the helpline a call they have experts on hand to help EVERYONE with our issues. All the very best to you Pamela. peeg xx
PS I do think you're very brave to tell us, bravo.
hi Pamela67 how long have you suffered with anorexia or is this something more recent?you defo need help and support ,try and let go of your control button alittle at a time,you sound like a lovely woman try and see that yourself baby steps. slowly one day at a time you can do it.do you have a busy life?Janexx
I can only agree with everyone and I truly hope you get the support you so obviously need Pamela. Wishing you all the best and so pleased you are on this site. Let us know how things go for you. Sorry I cannot be of more help but I am thinking of you. Love, Carole xx
Hi Pamela. I noted down that there is a programme I think about anorexia on Radio 4 tonight at 9pm...Inside Health...you can listen to it later on your laptop.
My sympathies go out to you
You may like me have been smoking for comfort...so now eating for comfort. Maybe try some talking therapy? Any addiction is avoidance of dealing with something else...hence tis easier to give up at great moments in life like getting married or promotion etc....when we feel on top of the world. X
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Hi Pamela, I suffered with an eating disorder for many years and found that I started eating when I felt 'happier'...so I think the two things are connected in some way.
It's hard to motivate yourself if you're tired from lack of food because you can not eat, also then, because there's no 'fuel' in you, you are just running on 'nervous' energy , burning more calories, and then the fight with food and low weight continues....you find yourself in a place that is 'familiar' and feels 'safe' because you 'know it' so it gets harder to break the cycle.....but you need nutrition in this fight with c.o.p.d. and you need to keep your body exercised and strong ... back to motivation......set yourself a GOAL or a few even......
when you get a disease that lands you on a site for sick lungs or something else that's no fun it's like a reminder of time being limited! so perhaps to get yourself eating and 'motivated to eat' a good idea would be to start taking the time to do those things that make YOU FEEL happy, GOALS you've yet to achieve.....things that get you feeling 'enthusiastic'...'excited' 'joyful' even ( I left many dreams and goals behind for a long time but now I'm trying every day and having fun )....and then maybe you will feel a little more hungry....food can be so good for you, you are SO worth it!!!! it works for me, 
I have a LOVE LOVE relationship with food now that years ago I would never have thought possible!!! Please Pamela ask for some help, we all need help sometimes, you deserve the best , hufferpuffer x ( sorry for rambling on! )
Thankyou xxx
Iam so sorry it's took me a while to replie I have been overwhelmed with everybodys replies and I thankyou all so much for that I cant replie to you all individual because my brain is working really slowly at the moment and I would still be replieing tomorrow but I did want to try and replies but all in one msg thankyou so much for opening your hearts to me here goes I have had this eaten problem now for nearly 2 tearooms things are getting worse we're it's making me feel really poorly and putting my wonderful family through hell I wouldn't hurt my family for the world but what I am doing is hurting them and that's making me feel so guilty and that make me want to punish myself more I ended up with this illness when my disabilities started to get worse and now having to relie on my family to help me with most of day to day things then other illnesses started to kick in which I Yves had no control over then bits of my past started to rear it's ugly head with my past and disabilities I haven't got no control over that's we're I think this horrible eating disorder as come into it because I thought I had control over that how wrong was I thankyou all for listening to me and Ian sorry for putting all this on your shoulders you have given me abit of belief in myself regarding the ciggys and I thankyou all so much for that kind regards pam xx
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Hi Pamela I have not answered you till now because I recall you posted about the anorexia before and my view remains the same, you need professional help first and foremost with the anorexia I feel, tea and sympathy is good but it will not give you the nutrition your body needs to stay alive and stay healthy, I am concerned if you do not seek professional help with this and seek out on going dedicated eating order support you will become even more ill.
With any illness there are choices a person can make, to decide which way they will travel, no matter how hard, no matter how joyful, no matter how life enhancing or destructive that journey may be. I so hope you will choose, the way that is good for you. In making the take care of Pamela choice you will seek out and be advised by those who are professionally trained to help you with this eating disorder to frequent place that are dedicated in supporting people with eating disorders on and off line. I am sure your doctor and counsellor can put you in touch with these.
I am wishing for you a wonderful tomorrow.
May you always be surrounded by those people that can help you the most.
All good wishes BC
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Nicely put BC. xx
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Hi blackleyc sorry Iam only just replieing back I seen my care coordinator and give her the go ahead to book me in with an eatean specialist this as Bern offered to me many times before but I have all ways declined but after seeing that I am hurting my family and husband who I caught in tears the other day because of the worry over me and anybody that knows me knows I love my family and husband very much so onwards and upwards I no there going to be be low times but Ian going to try my best to over come and once again I am sorry to you all for burdening you all but thankyou all so much for the wonderful advice and support you all have given me if I could meet you all personal I would give you all chocolates and flowers as a big thankyou because you all have been brilliant kind,regards pam xxx
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I am so pleased Pamela you are taking the steps that are going to help you with the eating disorder, the thing is Pam many people want to see you get the help you need, these people feel this way because they value your life and your health. Now its time for you also to value your life and your health, giving yourself the opportunities for a much happier and healthier experience for you in life. Helping yourself achieve the gift of improved health and quality of life, looking toward a much improved experience of life shared with your family and friends.
Be proud that you have made that choice and keep making that choice. Its truly the greatest gift you could give to yourself as well as your nearest and dearest.
Well done Pam.
Any time you feel you are floundering make contact with those professionals that can help you the most and frequent those dedicated support groups on and off line to help you through the difficult times.
Looking forward to a new improved way of living for you.
Take good care of Pam
Best wishes
BC x
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Aww Pamela, your poor love. Your so hard on your self. If you have just recently given up the cigies you could be feeling a bit down which is making everything else worse on you. Hang in there nothing last for ever I'm a bit under the weather myself to day but we'll get there. Call on us any time that's what we're here for. Bug, Big hugs to you and your family.
Pamela, all I can do is send you my support. Blf nurses sound like a good place to start. Good luck 
Alison
Thankyou alison evyone support as been wonderful as for talking to the blf nurses Ian seeing my councillor tomorrow so I'll see how I feel after that thankyou or your replies xxxx
Hi Pamela
I have been following your battle with stopping smoking and have really admired your strength to get this far with all the stress you have had to deal with. You have done absolutely fantastically.
All my life, I've always had problems with trying to eat. Any stress, and my appetite nosedived and weight dropped off me in no time. If I felt hungry, I had a cig instead. Since being diagnosed with COPD 18 months ago, my weight has dropped off again and I've been struggling to put it back on. Whenever I'm down, I can feel sick just smelling or looking at food. Yet I really want to eat. I just can't.
I actually stopped smoking 9 years ago, just to put weight on. I didn't gain an ounce for the first 4 months, I was gutted, even though I had started eating things I wouldn't have even tried before. My taste buds slowly came alive and soon everything was yummy. Still, I was puzzled why I wasn't getting any fatter. Then, all of a sudden, I just ballooned. Lol.
I think because I had smoked since 11 years old, my body went into shock when I stopped smoking, so it took a long time for it to adjust to being nicotine free. I'd stopped craving the cigs after only 9 days of patches. I saved the money and every few days I bought some paving stones to build a patio. That was my reward. I felt well pleased with myself as the flags piled up. Haha.
Pamela, you are still having a bit of a hard time over stopping smoking, the feel good factor hasn't hit you yet because you have stopped during an unhappy time. But, believe me, it will hit you soon. It is so much easier to stop smoking when things are going well in life. I know, because that was why I found it so easy 9 years ago. I was happy.
That's why you have done so brilliantly, because you've done it at the worst possible time but, Pamela, you've done it. Nothing will ever be so hard for you again. You are a very strong person Pamela. You should be feeling so proud of yourself. So, relax for a while now. Give yourself time to enjoy winning such a massive battle. Buy yourself some little treats to eat and put them away for yourself, Think of them as wages, they're your reward - you've earned them.
I don't know about you, but I tend to always want to eat more at night. ( 1, 2 and 3 in the morning.) So, I always make sure there are buns, chocolate ect... in the fridge for my nightly raids. I also always eat better if it is cooked for me.
Little and often is better than a plate full, so you don't feel overfaced. (I can feel full just looking at a plate of food.)
All I'm saying really Pamela is, one hurdle at a time. Give yourself credit where it is due. and celebrate that your biggest hurdle is beaten. And don't worry, you will soon be getting an appetite, without you even trying.
Well done you !!!
Casper xxx
PS, I hope you'll be there with coping tips for me when I finally manage to kick the weed.xx
Hi casper thankyou so much for taking the time to write to me regarding my strength giving up smoking that's really the only positive thing I've done in my life and Iam trying to keep hold of that strength it's Bern one long hard road regarding the ciggys and I don't think iam in the clear yet but I will keep battling with the nicotine it's had enough of my time regarding my eating I used to be a size 18 to 20 so I went on a diet and got down to a size 12 which I was happy with then my health started to deteriate my disabilities got worse and I became a recluse in my own home some days scare bd to open my curtains that's when things started to take a nosedive for me because I loved life was very house proud and most of that had Been taken away from me because of my disabilities that's when the aneroxia came into I Hayes myself for all that was happening I wanted some control back and that we're my eating disorder came into my own control where nobody could take it away from me how wrong was I 
I feel so selfish because all this is happening infringe of my wonderful family who mean the world to me and I haven't got no control any more and that scares me and makes me sad because there alot of people on this site and outside this site that,are fighting for there life and Ian just giving up on mine and for that I apologise to the people on here on a brighter more I seen my care coordinator yesterday and now I have agrees to see a eating specialists in the next week or so I thank you all and my family for not giving up on me if you need any advice regarding the ciggys feel free to ask it's so worth giving up again thankyou taking the time to write to me kind regards xxx
Hi Pamela, I hope your feeling a bit brighter today. Ah, the guilt, I have finally come through that one, I hope. My heart felt broken for my lads. But, at the end of the day, I didn't deliberately get poorly. Loads of people smoke and nothing happens to them.
Guilt is such a negative emotion. It holds us back from trying to get back on our feet. The good people on here are right, a positive attitude is a must, although I struggle each day to have one.
One day at a time is the way to do it Pamela. Trying to look into the future causes over-thinking and getting worked up.
I'm sending you good (((((Vibes.))))) Lol. Be good to yourself.
Casper. xx
Hi casper I have alot of problem with guilt at the moment have done for a while that's one of the things that is holding NE back according.g to my councellor I am trying to work on this guilt of mine because it's using up to much of my energy I am going to take one day at a time and take on board all the advice that you and the lovely people on here have given me I hope you start to feel more positive very soon thankyou for taking t he time to write back to me xxx
Pamela you are so strong! You are taking control of your (ex) smoking habit. You are taking control of your body and you are taking all the right steps in seeing a specialist counsellor. Be proud. xxx
hi pamela wow you've taken that next step do you feel a little better that you are gonna accept some pro help i think your brilliant and strong look at you with your smoking which you continue to battle with like me and your even there for me !!!! you can doitdoitdoit one day at a time.once again well done. Janexx
good luck to you Pamela
hope things start working in your favour
i'm trying to stop the ciggies now too lasted 60 hrs then started again
and 30 hrs again, today upto 10 hrs got hospital today to know if i have
emphysema or not . i take courage from your comments before about
being a non-smoker hope i can do it too after 39 years
anyway keep going Pamela best wishes , Micky
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mikeymouse,stop cigs is a must do,was you 10yrs old when you started,bernice
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yes was around 10 or 11 but trying very hard now
i know the importance of stopping got me nicorette gum
and murray mints helping me bernice
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ha,ye good,go to Hitchcock,type it in,he a member,take his advice on stopping,read what he writes,scroll them,bernice
Hi mickymouse thankyou for your comment it's,one of the hardest but rewarding things giving up the ciggys and like I've said before Ian not out of the woods yet they is alot of support on this site they have helped me so much if you need any advice and I will do what I can do to help you good luck at the hospital today hope it's encouraging news best wishes xxx
thank you will let you know
no news from hospital just blood test x-ray had in june different hospital
must wait 4 weeks for spiro test
hello mickeymouse123 hows the non smoking going today? well ihope? its an hour at atime to begin with then a day at a time im keeping everything crossed for your continued success im just about to start my fith day which is a first for me,tried many times and failed always having one or 20 praising myself its better than 40-50 which it is but not good enough so i hope to finish today having not succumbed.i dont want to be a smelly fagash Lil anymore!the people on this sit is what has made the difference for me this time and continue to do so they have been brilliant.Be focused be strong and be happy.hope hospital test prove to be good. Janexx
Hi Jane
no i'm succumbed again after 60 hrs then 30 hrs again
but much more confident i can stop now
yes the support here is amazing
i will do it i know i can
well done to you 5 days is excellant keep going
hope all is good with you
best wishes , Micky
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hi mikey,am not mentioning the sticks,you will do it,go for it,bernice
yes i purposely try to go out everyday to stop the temptation
yesterday did a 5 mile round trip to my sisters
looking for new parks and places to go
enjoy reading so like peace and quiet of a park or woods
thank you bernice will let you know how i get on today
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good,you feel like the urge take swig of iced water,swirl it round,keep doing that,keep bottle water with you,bernice
Good luck MM. You CAN beat the ciggies, just don't stop trying to stop. x
thank you Toci yes will keep trying
no news from hospital today just blood test x-ray had in june different hospital too
must wait 4 weeks for spiro test. MM
yes know that to well , not drunk for about three months
lost mom to lung cancer in may so trying to stop both
for obvious reasons now too
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real sorry you lost mom,i understand that,shes watching you and is there with you in this fight,prove you can do it,bernice
GO, longlungs!
GO, Pamela
GO, Mizzymac
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