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Back home and have raided my full fridge.

Feeling ok now but having op cancelled at last minute did knock me for six

But wanted to sing the praises of Papworth,I had been home a few minutes and a senior nurse off the ward I was on phoned up to make sure I had arrived home safe. Following that my surgeons secretary phoned to apologise and to say she would be getting my new date sorted first thing Monday,she had phoned me from her home.

One other downside to all this is the fact that my shaved chest and stomach has put paid to any modelling work that may have come my way. I am going to have a relaxing weekend as the heart has been having quite a few episodes over all this.

There is 1 thing that makes me smile when in hospital is being woken up in the early hours to have blood pressure checked,and I always think it would probably be a lot lower if I had not been woken up.

Thanks everyone for all your messages and encouragement it really helps.👏👏

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It's really deflating at the time, but honestly it will happen and you will feel far better when it has happened.

And as you said, top marks for the hospital team's response!

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Carluke in reply to Chappychap

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Glad you’re keeping your spirits up and finding the positives! Fingers crossed for some good news on Monday x

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Carluke in reply to Kazzie68

🤞

That is such a shame, missing out again. Love being woken up to be asked if I need something to help me sleep. Pity about modelling jobs. Lol. Please keep your spirits up. Take care. Moni

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Carluke in reply to MONIREN

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This may help! 🤣🤣🤣

Chest wig (male)
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Carluke in reply to MichaelJH

Brilliant £8.99 from Amazon

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MichaelJHHeart Star in reply to Carluke

Could be helpful as frequently in the area of the incision it comes back an ageing grey! ☹️

P.S. Hope you get a new date soonest..

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Carluke in reply to MichaelJH

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Hello :-)

I always have said it helps if you can hang on to your sense of humour and so glad you have as not much is making me smile at the moment but your posts do :-)

I have to say a lot of male models do get their chests shaved now a days so you could actually still get some work not all is lost they may have done you a favour :-)

The other positive and I think a relief to some reading your posts is you are back with that fridge full of food and now can eat it before it goes of and if I were you I would treat myself after all you have been through and dealing with the disappointment a couple of times yet taking it so well :-)

I think we are all behind you here and hope you get that op soon :-) x

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Carluke in reply to BeKind28

Thanks you made me smile

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BeKind28 in reply to Carluke

:-) x

Oh goodness, didn’t know it’s been my husband’s 80th birthday today so it’s been hectic and have not logged on until now. Your great attitude will see your recovery go really well. Try and have a relaxing weekend and fingers crossed it will be all systems go with the phone call Monday.

Best wishes Pauline

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Magicfairy in reply to 080311

Sorry for butting in, but 🍾🥂 Happy 80th birthday to Paulines husband , hope you’ve all had a great day xx

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080311 in reply to Magicfairy

Thank you, it’s been lovely, our sons have spoilt him rotten, he’s had some wonderful presents. This morning this huge box was delivered because of his stroke I have to open most things it did say careful with sharp blades! I wish I had known what was in it and could have video because his face was an absolute picture this very large balloon floated out with all this sparkly confetti made up of 80s he was struck dumb 😂

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Magicfairy in reply to 080311

Aww bless him, glad he got spoilt, and yes it would have been great to catch his reaction on video 😊x

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UnderMilkWood in reply to 080311

Yes indeed! Happy 80th Birthday Pauline’s husband!!

🎂 🍾🥂

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Thanksnhs in reply to 080311

Happy 80th to your husband I hope you both have a lovely day 🥂, things are still going well, still reducing the steroids but on Friday a huge filling came out and I only have half a tooth left, gutted dentist not open till Monday, I hope you are both feeling well at the moment, take care char x

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080311 in reply to Thanksnhs

Morning char,Thanks for the good wishes, we are both doing ok. So sorry about the tooth, hope it doesn’t give you too much trouble over the weekend, it always seems these things happen either weekends or bank holidays. So pleased to read they are still reducing your steroids ever upwards.

Had a letter last Saturday, an appointment for my 5 year review with the cardiologist thought the date was for the 1-6-21 so thought I had missed it reread it it says 1-6-22 so for 12 months time!! They are really booking us ahead of time😂

Take good care.

Pauline

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Thanksnhs in reply to 080311

Hi so far what's left of tooth ok, but I am sticking to soft food 🙄just in case, I am terrified the rest of it breaks off, that is a very long time for an appointment and it will probably get changed! I am now on my fourth appointment for the genetics Councilor and I will need to change it as we are on holiday, my son was at the Queen Elizabeth yesterday getting all the tests done to see if he has the faulty gene, I so hope he doesn't fingers crossed for a good result char x

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080311 in reply to Thanksnhs

Will have my fingers crossed too. Have a nephew just happens to be a surgeon in the USA. He is in the middle of a course of radiation treatment for cancer, his mother died from a similar cancer so him and his brother have been gene tested and both carry the same gene as their Mum, Chris is now concerned for his 3 children so is having them tested.

Pauline

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Thanksnhs in reply to 080311

I really hope the children will be fine, my brother has still to go and get tested he has three daughters he is mid 50's and compared to the way I felt at that age he seems absolutely fine I hope this will be confirmed after the tests, my older son refused to go, he has a daughter so I am pretty angry about it but he 43 so not much I can do char x

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080311 in reply to Thanksnhs

I know how difficult you must be finding it, but as you say they are grown ups. Because my valve was worn out the surgeon said you are either born with good genes or your not, my Dad had all the same symptoms as I had but this was years before replacement valves. So I worry about my boys and Granddaughters. Craig who lives in Australia had an ECG done 18 months ago and everything was good, but as for genes haven’t a clue.

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-007- in reply to 080311

-007- secret mission is to deliver 80th Birthday Congratulations to Pauline's husband. The message reads…

"We at the palace are delighted to wish you, Paulines husband, a very Happy 80th Birthday. I regret that the bottle of scotch that we were going to send you looked so good that we opened it to taste (just to make sure it was a suitable gift don’t you know) andd it waas rally gid soooaaa weee haaaddss anither. Noo thit thee bittle isss emtee, weee sssso sirry.

Soo God Bless thisss ssship n allls who sailsss in her.

End of message.

👍🥳🥳🥳🥳👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻🤪😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫

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080311 in reply to -007-

Morning,That post as just made him laugh out loud, thank you very much. Hope you and yours are doing well still thinking of a tour round our beautiful Scotland?

Best wishes Pauline

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-007- in reply to 080311

Morning Pauline,Hahahah glad that made him laugh 😂

Yes, we’re definitely coming up to Scotland. I’ve now got my motorhome on my drive (at last!).

Not sure when we’ll be going North but the plan is later in the year but not too late.

We have to test the motorhome out a little first.

Then next year (COVID permitting) we’ll head down through France visiting my wife’s family.

Life is nothing but an adventure! 😎

All the best to you and yours 😊

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080311 in reply to -007-

You are right we have grab the second chance we have been given. Really enjoy your new found freedom on the road. 🌈

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-007- in reply to 080311

Thanks 👍

Hope you had a good day. X

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080311 in reply to Carluke

He as had a great day, spoilt rotten 😂

Oh dear, I’ve just caught up😞, so sorry it’s happened to you again, but at least your food has not been wasted 🙂, third time lucky 🤞x

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Carluke in reply to Magicfairy

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So sorry this has happened for you again but I’m sure it will happen very soon they are obviously going to try and make it happen as soon as possible in the meantime enjoy that fridge 😀x

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Carluke in reply to Retirement65

Already tucked in

I cannot believe this! You poor thing.

Thank goodness you had a full fridge!

Yes. The obs at different times of day and night take me back too.

Have to be done but disturbing your rest that’s for sure.

I know how lucky I was in the middle of a pandemic to go in first time. I was waiting for the ….sorry not now bit!

Feels odd to say ….it will happen …..but it will.

However you manage to relax and de stress just do it.

Phone your agent for those pre surgery model casts! Holby might be interested!

😉

❤️Maisie❤️

Thanks Maisie X

Amazed you haven't had a sense of humour failure! Shame about the modelling gigs this weekend...but at least the contents of your fridge might be some consolation. Hospital sounds like it was right on it, so you should have a new date soon. But deflating nonetheless, so fingers crossed you get good news on Monday. Frances

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Carluke in reply to francesw47

Thanks

I remember being woken at midnight in Wigan Infirmary because they’d forgotten to give me my sleeping pill.

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Nettekin in reply to Mentdent

That reminded me of when the (otherwise lovely) auxiliaries woke me up at 11pm to ask if I'd like some hot chocolate to help me sleep!😏

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Gladwyn in reply to Nettekin

Hilarious !

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Carluke in reply to Mentdent

Brilliant

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Carluke in reply to Mentdent

Kind of them !

Hi Carluke, sorry about the delay. A word of warning if you eat all the contents of the fridge your modeling career is out of the window, DON'T DO IT. Take care.Ruth

Too late!

Sorry to hear about the delay, especially as the door almost opened for you. I found Papworth excellent with their PR and hopefully this won't happen to you again.

As for obs during the night, my most amusing (not at the time) experience was in Kettering cardiac unit when I was being consrantly monitored electronically. When I went to sleep my heart rate dropped and set the alarm off which immediately woke me up! Thankfully the parameters were quickly adjusted.

Hope you get sorted with a new date soon.

Gerald

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Carluke in reply to GWP1952

That bloody alarm drove me mad, obviously the madder you get the faster the beat the more the alarm goes. Who the hell invented that.

Carluke, like everyone else so sorry and disappointed for you, but you have a wonderful attitude. It must be so frustrating for the doctors in charge of your cased too and I'm sure everyone with any clout or influence will do everything they can to get you in as soon as feasible. Please continue to keep your spirits up.

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Carluke in reply to LBCdance

Will do thanks

Sorry to read this , hopefully a new date soon , and a great sense if humour you have 😀😀

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Carluke in reply to Barb6374

😂

Oh I’m really sorry to hear you’ve been cancelled again and it’s such a rollercoaster when it’s last minute, isn’t it? Stay positive and it will happen. I think the hospitals push you up the priority list a bit more when you’ve been cancelled. When I finally had mine, I was told I was the only case for my surgeon that day but second case in theatre as he was on call for assistance with the other surgeon’s first case if needed, so they didn’t come and get me until about 10.30am but then suddenly it was all systems go! It will be for you too very soon I’m sure. Good luck!

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Carluke in reply to Jocastina

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Have been following your very up and down progress over the last few days and so sorry to hear of the latest cancellation. It says a lot about you, that you can keep your sense of humour. Your hospital follow up was excellent, if a little unusual! Wishing you all the best for a new date really soon. Don't overdo the modelling work and try and avoid the post shave itch!😁x

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Carluke in reply to Nettekin

No itch yet.

Had no idea you'd been sent back home. Emergencies can't be helped and if I was he emergency I'd be glad I was pushed in but it's still awful for you.. Not sure I would have coped.

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Carluke in reply to Qualipop

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I've only just logged on to the forum. So sorry you've been put on hold again.

I had to smile about your modelling work having to be put on the back burner!!!

My husband got quite used to being shaved and then being sent home!!! Almost like going to the barbers (cheaper but only legs and chest shaved!!).

Hope you get some good news soon.

All the very best. Jan xxx

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Carluke in reply to Handel

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Pleased to hear that the nurse and secretary took the trouble to phone you. Although it is not their fault, or anybody else's I suppose, it is good when people in official positions do acknowledge how hard these last minute delays are on patients. Sounds as if you need some rest and relaxation over the w/e (are you a sports fan at all - I love tennis, and Wimbledon starts next week and of course plenty of football at the moment). If you can spoil yourself in any way you should and look forward to hearing from the hospital soon - you should be top priority for the next admission space.

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Carluke in reply to LBCdance

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I know the uncertainty isn't what you need right now, you just want to get the op and take the first step in the recovery journey - it'll happen soon I hope. Re the modelling work, just let them know you'll be available in about 3-4 months :D x

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