The passing of my Tadda (Welsh for Grandfather)

[ENMORSE]

Hello my name is EN (which is short for Endevour)

On the Jubliee weekend my Dad's Dad passed away i called him Tadda

He had a heart attack while traveling as a passenger in the car.

When the news of his passing reached me i was in shock .

i was in shock for a few days i just couldn't get my head around it.

The Funeral is on the 2nd July at the Ebenezer Congregational Chapel the burial is in the grounds of the parish church then at the community centre for the wake.

I shall miss him alot chatting on the phone and going up to see him in Miefod where lived in a bungalow.

I feel so emotional Tadda died just after my Gran's birthday and my gran passed away in 2019 that feels like yesterday i lived with my gran since i was a baby she was my mum's mother. i haven't got over her loss yet. i am no good at coping with death you feel better for a short time and then you are grieving again even the happy time trigger my grief off it that normal?

hope to make friend here.

En Morse

[chloe40 Administrator]

Hello ENMORSE

So sad to learn of the loss of your dear Tadda.

It's not surprising that his loss was a shock to you, losing a loved one is always a shock to our system and it also brings back memories of other loved ones that we were close too, as you have found.

Take your time, you cannot rush your feelings, just try to get through the funeral as your next step {{{hugs}}}

You'll find lots of support here <3

Chloe

[ENMORSE in reply to chloe40]

HI Chloe i am still grief for my Tadda i was unable to go to the funeral because i was on holiday and in fact has made my grief harder because i wasn't able to say goodbye i felt so bad for not going to the funeral but unfortunately i couldn't do anything about it i feel very upset about that i was there to say goodbye.

I miss him so very much.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to ENMORSE]

Hi ENMORSE That's such a shame you were unable to say goodbye but it's not too late!

You could buy a shrub or flowering plant that your Tadda liked and plant it in your garden, you can then say your goodbyes and keep his memory alive too.

You can also make a memory box and even decorate it, fill it will keepsakes of your Tada and keep it somewhere close by, maybe your bedroom, I keep mine under my bed and take it out when I need comforting<3

I hope this helps ENMORE

Chloe <3

[Caza]

Yes all normal. Whenever there’s a wedding or a birth in the family I’m always filled with not just happiness but such sadness that my sister & daughter would not witness the event. I always think grief is like a roller coaster without the extreme highs. Or like the sea with the waves going out & there’s calm & then the sky turns black & the waves come rushing in again.

But I do believe that our loved ones live on in us & our family so therefore are always with us.

I’m sorry for your loss. Take care x