How do you feel about spending Christ... - Bereavement Care ...
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My husband and I will be having our first Christmas in 40 years on our own. We are actually looking forward to it in spite of missing our families.
Hi kitchengardener2 I'm pleased you're looking forward to Christmas, I do hope you enjoy it. <3
If I had my husband with me I’d be happy with the two of us. Since he passed away & with the lockdown I’ve been alone for months & absolutely hate it. I miss him so much as we were inseparable. I’m dreading Christmas as it is so if our sons can’t come to stay it would be unthinkable.
Hello KT22 I'm really very sorry you're feeling so alone and isolated. It going to be difficult for so many of our Forum members, I can only hope that at least one of your sons is in your 'Bubble' and see you at some point during this time. It's not going to be the same for most of us but somehow we have to get through this in the hope we can get together in a safer environment in the coming year <3
Your comment to “security” below has really upset me. My sons live over 200 miles away so aren’t in my bubble. We’d all like a safer environment but thousands of students will be going home & no one will tell them to stay away from their families. Your remark made me feel like giving up on life completely
I'm in exactly the same position KT22 so I completely understand how you're feeling. I'm really sorry if I upset you <3 I'm feeling that way myself with no-one to comfort me <3
I normally spend Christmas with my grown up children and visit my widowed mother on boxing day....it will be myself alone this year due to the covid virus...... I don't mind under the circumstance as long as everyone else are safe....🥰🙂
I try to follow the Christmas spirit with a little drink, nice meals and a few prezzies. Apart from that i spend the day as usual and i will carry on with my usual chores. But i like to start reflecting on the year gone and the year to come. I'm sure we'll all have a chat about new year resolutions!
I work in the 24/7 NHS, plus my dad didn't really like Christmas. Maybe it was a premonition as he died suddenly of a heart attack aged 52 on Boxing Day when I was 17. The following year I spent the day on my own in the nurses home. I was on the morning shift and all my friends were on the evening shift. As a ward sister, I was obliged to work on Christmas Day. As a result I've never really been that bothered about Christmas. Since my mum passed away in 2017, I actually quite like to be at home on my own at Christmas, just pottering, opening presents, reflecting and watching TV, although people find that difficult to understand. Sadly, I'm a rubbish cook, so don't eat anything special. This year my brother and his family have invited me to spend the day with them (he usually works on Christmas Day too), so I'm actually looking forward to that, as it'll be the first Christmas Dinner since 2017. And before anyone grumbles at me, they've all been shielding and protecting themselves as my sister-in-law is vulnerable. In one year, the only family members I've seen are my 90-year-old uncle, his wife and my cousin on my uncle's 90th birthday in August, and I've worked long hours without a break since January, so I reckon I deserve to see my brother on Christmas Day. I'm so sorry for those of you who aren't able to see your families.
Oh and I'm on strong medication that inflames my liver, so no drinkies for me! It's not a problem though, and at least I'll be able to drive home from my brother's in the evening (no I won't be risking staying overnight).
Lost my mum 3yrs ago she was a Christmas baby so it was extra special. 18 months later on Christmas week I lost my brother. And 12 months later this week my husband lost his dad. Christmas hasn’t been the same here anyway so I’m happy to be just at home. It’s very painful when everyone is (rightly) happy etc on the day - but it can be too much to cope with. I wish EVERYONE a Safe healthy Christmas.
Xmas was my Mum's favourite holiday, and this will be the first without her. It's going to be rough.
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