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Would you have Emotional support as well as Bereavement support if you could access it?

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Eleni

I don’t think the psychological affect of being diagnosed with cancer can be underestimated

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chloe40Administrator in reply to Eleni

Absolutely not Eleni! totally agree with you <3

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Will2015abc

I find during this pandemic that I feel I’m grieving even more (or all over again). I don’t think we will really know the full impact on our emotional selves due to this pandemic for a while but it’s absolutely taking a toll on me and from talking to others, so many many other people.

Bereavement and grief is bad enough- it seems so much tougher though right now.

I wonder am I alone in this?

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Clarrisa in reply to Will2015abc

I have been reliving all the losses in my life as well. We have far fewer distractions from them. It seems we long for any measure of comfort that they once brought us. You are not alone.

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chloe40Administrator in reply to Clarrisa

Thank you Clarrisa

You've pretty well answered the same way as me x

Chloe<3

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Will2015abc in reply to Clarrisa

Thanks Clareisa. Yes definitely there is a need to “pick up the phone” to our loved ones or a comfort that we would have had with them that seems so acutely absent at the moment. My mother’s anniversary was in May and my brothers birthday in early July (they died within 18 months of each other - 2017/2018) and this year is particularly hard.

Thinking of you. 🙏

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chloe40Administrator in reply to Will2015abc

Hi Will2015abc

I think you're absolutely right, the impact this has had on so many, including me is awful and for many it will be a long term effect.

You're certainly not alone in feeling your emotions of grief have re-surfaced, and for some in a big way and that is very difficult to cope with, we can't channel our thoughts into much else right now.

I sincerely hope you are able to find some positivity in the days that follow and I will update the forum on any helpful information I can find. x

Chloe

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Will2015abc in reply to chloe40

Thanks Chloe. Yes as I said to Clarissa it’s so much more “raw” at the moment. And terribly tough when just trying to get through an anxious time such as this.

I also found myself (somewhat selfishly but I don’t care lol) really annoyed at people complaining that they can’t see friends/family during lockdown. Well we can’t see our loved ones AT ALL!! Probably over sensitive but that’s an almost daily thing.

Wishing you and all here well

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chloe40Administrator in reply to Will2015abc

Not over sensitive Will, you're entitled! {{{hugs}}}

Chloe

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Greyone

If asked around the time, i would almost certainly have said no because I'd need to understand what that would mean and maybe not be in the mood to do that.

A small booklet often comes with many forms of support, i see them all over my hospital, doctors and dentist. We seem to be very fond of producing them.

I cant think who would offer me any support. Mums care home would be the only people knowing of any need and i would expect them to be well versed in such things. But that was never mentioned.

My doctors , like many , have had their backs to the wall for so long. I cant quite visualise them offering such a thing. I think it would be nice if there was a 'front of house' service that our care home could have alerted behind the scenes. One if my regrets is that the my respect for my doctors and mums care home had greatly diminished over the years, following slow reflection. It is difficult to think who i could take seriously with such a subject.

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socratesanne

But too many people are in trouble I would not reach out and access.

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Daddysgirl1982

I've been waiting to see someone about cCBT (computerized cognitive behavioural therapy), but I have to make do with phone appointments at the moment.

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chloe40Administrator in reply to Daddysgirl1982

Hi Daddysgirl1982

Yes, it's another result from the Covid situation I suspect but I'm pleased you're at least having telephone support <3