If you could give one person advice, ... - Bereavement Care ...
Please select all that apply:
Thanks chloe40 for administrating this forum. I intend read the comments here in more detail & hopefully support others. I only just discovered this forum 2 days ago.
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Sorry Chloe, had to make two votes which I think are equally important.
No need to be sorry at all JOLLYDOLLY, whatever is important to you is important to me <3
no two days are the same during the process of grieving one day at a time.
I recalled my mother saying a number of times in the past how important reflection was, even if it was forced upon one by illness. So I selected the reflection advice above. I already told a brother of our mother’s view recently.
She also use to say reading poems has helped people in the past through rough times (Robert Frost, etc.). And embroidery is a good hobby for even men. I have yet to do hand embroidery, but have broken out my sewing machine recently.
Thank you for continuing to think of us Chloe during this troubling time. A bridge over troubled waters comes to mind for some reason ... My grief group had disbanded for the foreseeable future, your thoughtfulness is really appreciated.
Yes Clarrisa, we do seem to have reflection forced upon during this time and for some that can be unwelcome too, but I agree, sometimes we need to reflect in life and loss too.
Strangely enough, I've been thinking about embroidery, as I feel in desperate need of a project! <3
Just breathe. If you can’t cope with getting through the day then think about the next hour. And if that’s too much- just breathe. Feel how you feel don’t push away tears when they come - baby steps
I love this Will, thank you so much! <3
Bless you chloe40 - kind words x
I've had to vote "not rely on family". I initially thought the right thing for me was to rely on family, but they continually disappointed me, and actually distressed me, so I now know that I can't rely on family. I've found that to protect myself from their comments or lack of comments, I've had to distance myself from them. Sadly, due to hurtful comments from one of my sisters recently, I've stopped being in contact with her altogether. I just couldn't cope with the constant tears contact with her caused. My best friend is my lifeline!
Hi Claire,
I do understand why you have reached this conclusion and I'm so sorry that your family and sister have caused you such distress. Unfortunately, this is not uncommon but I'm thankful that you have a best friend who is there for you <3
Take care Claire.
Chloe <3
Yesterday I got call from someone who didn’t know he died. First time I not cry. It the holidays that are hard. Also being not sure on decisions. I sometimes review what could have been done different but still same outcome. It easier to be in group with others gives a perspective of how they handled things. I only got partial last year due to my mobility. Then started again then virus. Gave me something why I feeling the feelings I had .
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