Where will you be at midnight? - Bereavement Care ...
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Have not had a good year with my health and personal problems so will be glad to see this year out. I find it very depressing so will be in bed watch a bit of Tv nothing exciting but look forward to 2020.
I'm sorry to read that Hidden and I wish you well for the 2020 <3
I will be at home with my mrs and kids letting them stay up later tonight no alcohol though because I get emotional as it is.
Worst year ever,my marriage broke up then my son took his life.Havent anything to celebrate.Hope 2020 is not as traumatic.
Mia51 that is horrendous I’m so so sorry for your loss. No words. As you know people try and be so kind and say the right thing but it all feels meaningless even though they mean so well.
Bless you. Will be thinking of you.
15 months since I lost my husband after 56 years together. I am in a better place than last year but the holiday season is hard .
Worst New Years brother died last Christmas so was in a daze this feels like first Christmas and mum died 18months before that. This year has been so hard without the “shock” - sometimes shock acts like a protection. It’s all very hard this year.
Bless everyone for a better year ahead.
That's so hard for you Will2015abc and I agree shock can seem like protection as we're just numb to what's happened, twice is too much x
That is so awful losing all those family members.I agree when your in shock it seems fine...now the reality is setting in its hard.love to you for the new year.xx
My husband died in 2016. We used to be invited to dine with a widowed friend on New Year Eves but were back home before midnight. Since he died I have not been invited - it was him she wanted to see (kiss, kiss).
Oh @Knotty that's is just horrible! x
Why are we ignored after a loss, it's very cruel I feel.
The person who used to invite us for New Year's Eve dinner does sometimes contact me - and has invited me to a few odd occasions over the last four years. It is just this particular time in the year where we had been with her (just the 3 of us) every year for over ten years when she obviously no longer wants to see me without him.
Maybe she just feels plain awkward Knotty many people have difficulty finding the right words but all they need do is give us hug!
My mum always said that Chloe40. When dad died when I was a child she stopped being invited to things they used to be invited to as a couple. And she was so hurt. And I’ve heard of this from others who have been widowed. It’s seems so cruel. Mum would be upset but would brush it off saying “when you’re on your own- you’re really on your own - but at least I know who my real friends and family are”.
I think people are afraid to be around people in grief and that’s very sad. Walk towards the grieved. Talk about their loved ones. We’re not reminding them they’ve lost someone - we letting them know we will never forget them either.
Thank you Hidden !
I’ll be at home on my own, but might stay up until midnight if I can keep going! I’m that tired right now, I’m not hopeful...
If you are reflecting, try to think about the good times, it helps sometimes Ladybird25
Thank you Chloe. Good idea. It’s always difficult at this time of year, and it doesn’t seem to get easier. That’ll be two whole years that my lovely mum hasn’t seen. She loved life so much. x
This will be the first New Year without my husband. It doesn't really matter if I am in bed before midnight, I will have my dog with me. Will really miss the first kiss of the New Year though.
Definitely in bed, trying to get a few winks before the onslaught of fireworks at Midnight. Some of them sounded like Artillery shells! Really no good for a person diagnosed with PTSD!
I struggle to stay up till midnight. I usually get up at 4.45 so am in bed for 9pm. I was working NYE so was up at the usual time, by 9.30 I was so tired I just went to bed.
We don't do anything special on NY other than a nice dinner.
For me it's just another new day coming. Every new day holds the possibility of good things so should be welcomed with an open heart and mind.
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