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Who gave you the advice and support you needed, when you needed it?

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Greyone profile image
Greyone

My mind deliberately makes this question hard for me because it says to me something different each time I read it. Maybe support came from many sources and at different times and more than one someones else <sigh> <frowny face>.

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mysmugcat in reply to Greyone

I understand.

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Greyone in reply to Greyone

My Doctor certainly didn't (whoever he or she is). I have a different doctor every time I go and every time I am summoned. Only the nurses and sisters have any form of compassion. Their CQC rating is incongruous to say the least and does not fit my own opinion.

Our Hospital was out of the picture and mum's care home were more concerned about moving her body on the day she died.

I have never found an Angel amongst our family and friends apart from the been there done that got the T-Shirt brigade who thought that gave them 'gold card' access to my feelings.

The advice and support I got were thanks only because I encountered a different life problem a year later when I had been suffering in silence as a home worker for several months. It was based around a limited package of 5 consultations.

Looking back now I have made grateful use of the Samaritans. That was despite the fact that I was on the receiving end of their rather aggressive marketing campaign some years ago and decided I no longer wanted to be a financial supporter. But I have been pleased to see at first hand the good work they can do. even now that past experience of them lingers with me.

Cruse, I found exceptionally comforting on several occasions on several occasions after my main counselling.

My path from bereavement has been comparatively easy with gaining advice and support not the easiest part.

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chloe40Administrator in reply to Greyone

That's a real shame Greyone Some services are extremely supportive and many not unfortunately.

You and your experiences have been a great support to other members, thank you.

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mysmugcat

Friends haha. A stranger that became a friend, someone else. And family

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chloe40Administrator in reply to mysmugcat

Good to hear from you mysmugcat I found that relationships like 'friends' tend to change dramatically when faced with loss, such a shame.

Chloe x

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mysmugcat in reply to chloe40

Totally. After the first day after my partner died many friends did not come round at all.

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Maman2144

I found this site helpful as I didn't feel alone when I felt I couldn't keep going.

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chloe40Administrator in reply to Maman2144

Thank you Maman2144

Much appreciated.

Chloe x

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eppendorf

Doctors, and friends do not understand PSP. The only help can come from a Neurologist who specialises in Parkinsonism. Sometimes, even our Consultant cannot recognise or offer treatment for some of the synptoms my husband experiences. We feel quite alone with this illness.

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chloe40Administrator in reply to eppendorf

Hello eppendorf and welcome.

I'm so sorry to read this {{{hugs}}} Specialists seem to be thin on the ground sadly but please remember, we are always here for you. x

Chloe x

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chloe40Administrator

Thank you everyone,

It's amazing that nobody had any help from the hospital where there loved one died, shocking! and hospices don't seem to have faired much better and that surprises me. In fact, all the medical services appear pretty poor.

Seems that our friends and family are the main support and that doesn't surprise me too much.

I appreciate we have all had different experiences and these polls help us to gauge what help we receive.

Thanks again

Chloe

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Catwoman2018

When my mum was admitted to hospital suddenly, we had no idea she was terminally ill, she had a very rare aggressive cancer and within 5 weeks of being active and healthy, we lost her. The manager of the local hospice visited and said she was too ill to transport so she would spend her last days in hospital. The doctors, nurses and macmillan nurses were exceptional, they found us a side room with own bathroom in the stroke unit, it was private and calm and they allowed all 10 of us in there. We spent 5 days there, all staff went above and beyond to make us comfortable and my mum was looked after exceptionally well. They even let us use the staff kitchen during the night to make hot drinks. When mum passed, we wrote to the hospital and thanked them for the first class care my mum and ourselves received and praised them for being so Compassionate at this sad time. xx

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chloe40Administrator in reply to Catwoman2018

Thank you for your reply, @Catwoman2018, now that's exactly the support I had in mind xx

Chloe