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Were your siblings supportive when you lost your loved one?

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bunty65

My youngest half brother was very supportive when our Mother died, her husband (they did not have children together) was not interested in arranging or paying for her funeral (which we paid between us) and two years down the line still not complying with her will. I think some of this is because we lost our Sister a few months before so were both still grieving her suicide

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chloe40Administrator in reply to bunty65

Really sorry to read that you and your brother are grieving such painful losses bunty65 Life shouldn't be like that should it? but I'm pleased you have each other and hope you both received the support you needed from bereavement counselling.

Chloe

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sweetiepye

My brother, my only sibling, was the one who died. The most supportive people were his friends who were like family to him. It was so comforting to discover people who loved him and had many stories to share. Tears and laughter. Pam

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chloe40Administrator in reply to sweetiepye

Hello Pam!

If I remember correctly, the loss of your brother affected you dearly. I can see that friends who cared deeply for him must have been a great comfort to you. Take care

Chloe

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kenster1Volunteer

my sister would have been for my son but I never asked for support.when it was my mum she was with my dad its been ok.my 2 brothers have never been any support at all.

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chloe40Administrator in reply to kenster1

I'm sorry Kenny kenster1 , I wish you'd been given more, you've had such a heavy load to carry these past years.

Chloe

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Will2015abc

While they were supportive, we all grieve differently I guess so there were times when it was “difficult” to communicate with one another. And still is.

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chloe40Administrator in reply to Will2015abc

That's very true Will2015abc and I'm glad you felt they were there if you needed them.

Chloe

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Caza

My sister was brilliant my brother on the other hand..... well he sold the family Home & emptied it out behind our backs & got our distraught father to make a new will..you guessed everything went to my brother eventually. You couldn’t make it up could you 🤦‍♀️😡

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chloe40Administrator in reply to Caza

Hi Caza

Oh my goodness, that is so awful! I fail to understand people more and more. I can't imagine how you and your Father must have felt {{{hugs}}}

Chloe x

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Lperica10

Yes and no. One sister was very involved when our dad passed, we grieved together, made all decisions together, cleaned out his home together, etc. my other sister (who was estranged from my dad but not from us) wasn’t involved.

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GoGo_JoJo

I could not have managed without my brother when my Dad died, and again when our Mother died, even though an ocean separates us.