Do you cope better in the Summer months? - Bereavement Care ...
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Mum passed at the end of May last year and Dad passed when I was 10 in May also. So summer time is hard. Everything looks so beautiful and you feel you “should” be enjoying it but it’s very strange as there’s an absence. Particularly since Mum passed. Very odd. And unsettling.
Thank you for your reply Will2015abc
Interesting that you feel you 'should' be enjoying the summer. The sense of absence I totally understand. Thanks again and I hope you're keeping well.
Chloe x
Thank you as always Chloe40. I find the surveys very useful.
Summer definitely brightens me up. But oh so many memories!! Amusement parks my dad took me to as a kid, favorite foods you shared that you tend to eat in the summer, going to get ice cream, fireworks,so def good memories, but then it was 2 summers ago my dad declined greatly, and I was his caregiver. A lot of memories with that too.
My mum passed away in November last year, so we spent our last summer together, going on days out, little outings and enjoying the warm summer days together. Gradually she got weaker and I realised I was losing her, and this time, she wouldn’t bounce back. I’m now going through another summer, but now I’m alone and there are no lovely outings or days out. I just remember the warm summer air wafting into her room as she lay sleeping in her bed. It’s still too raw to create happy memories, as I just want her to be here with me, enjoying the summer.
So at the moment, nothing helps.
So sorry Ladybird25
It definitely is too soon, but from what you have said I feel one day the very special relationship you shared, will bring you comfort and many happy memories {{{hugs}}}
Take care
Chloe x
Hi ClaireJG
Firstly I’m so sorry about your mum. I lost mine last May (2017). I just wanted to say you post touched me deeply.
You have a beautiful way with words and I could “feel” your words (if that makes sense) - so beautifully written and so vivid to a stranger. It’s so very raw I know - summer seems “ridiculous” without her I’m sure and no of course they are no good memories to hold on to yet - it’s too painful right now .
But I wish for you the best- that the hard days become hard hours and the hard hours become more and more apart.
We never stop missing them and the pain remains the same - we just in Time make a little more room for it and today - it’s never an “either/or”. We grieve AND we live. But it’s not easy and this community is so lovely to be a part of.
I do hope today is okay for you. Even a little while.
You’re in my thoughts.
W
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