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I wrote one and my brother read it out on my behalf
That's very brave I think most of us are too bereaved to speak
It was my youngest son, my eldest one died 6 months previously and did not do anything for him so felt this was the right thing to do this time
I am so very sorry for your losses especially losing your boys!!! It's devastating to lose one child but to lose two is beyond words can describe my heart truly goes out to you..it's totally understandable for you not being able to read out but I would agree with you on this one it would be impossible to do but also very brave to have your brother do it for you..
Thank you so much for sharing
Love Nat xxx
Hello my friend Hidden
I was the same I wrote one but was far to heartbroken to read it the priest read it for me instead I do wish I had now though but was impossible to read it at the time
Love Nat xx
I was at a funeral on Thursday and the son and a grandson of the lady read their speeches. They each became very emotional, their voices cracking and many in the congregation crying at their distress. Maybe writing it means you don't forget what you wanted to say but it is then the familiarity with the structure of what you have crafted which then adds to make it so overwhelming.
I wrote and vicar read it but I wish I could have found the strength to speak myself
You and me both my friend but think it's to hard at the time
Thanks.'s for sharing
Nat x
I wrote all three Eulogy's that were read out by the Celebrant a bit like a "This is your life" scenario. At my mum's wake, our Jen, did what I knew she would do and that I got everyone to hush, whilst she said "Hip Hip Horay to Mummy", she didn't do it at dads for some reason. But when it came to her funeral, I was in shock and I wish now, I had at least been able to do a "Hip Hip Horay" for her, but too devastated. 
Hi JOLLYDOLLY bless your lovely sister Jen and her saying hip hip hooray mummy has put a huge lump in my throat.
But it's totally understandable you couldn't you had lost.so much in such a short time it's too hard to speak when your so heartbroken
Thanks for sharing
Love Nat xxx
Thanks Nat,
Yes it is very difficult isn't? Although six months have now passed, it is still raw, we have quite a few family birthdays coming up and they will not be the same without her sparkle.
How are you doing?
Love
Jayne xxx
6 months is very very early days my sweet and my heart goes out to you you Jen made such a fabulous impact on your life with her sparkle that on its own is to hard to take in
Here if you need a chat
Love Nat xx
Thank you and yes Jen had and always will have a lot of sparkle lol x
Here for you too Nat xx
Thank you so much JOLLYDOLLY xx
I spoke at my mothers funeral. Didn’t think I could do it and had someone with me standing beside to take over in case it got too much. That helped greatly. I didn’t need them to take over but just knowing they were beside me helped enormously. It was hard but I’m SO glad I got to say how amazing She was.
Hi Will2015abc
How brave you were at such a hard time well done and it helps to know you had your family by your side who were there to hold you up if need be..and its lovely to know you could say what a amazing lady your mum was I wish I could of done that..
Thank you for sharing
Love Nat xxx
thank you so much Natzsteveo. It was terribly hard but I was determined to "tell mums story" and how humble and kind She was. She will always be my compass and its thanks to my husband standing beside me that I could do it.
x
I know it would of been very hard for you..but to actually get up there is absolutely courageous..you proudly stood there with admiration and your strength and the strength from your husband that got you through it and I admire you for that.
Love Nat xxx
Thank you so much Nat. I was so glad i got to say what i wanted to say it meant SO much to me. I was petrified and obviously still in shock (where I am the funeral is literally the day after someone passes). So i think the shock actually helped!
My heart goes out to you at least you got to do it with meaning so much to you
Love Nat x
Yes I wrote one for my dad and was very nervous. I read it to my best friend and she said it was perfect. And as the day went on I read it to my husband and told him I didn’t know if I could do it. He encouraged me too and I did so I wouldn’t regret it. It wasn’t long but I am SO glad I did it.
Well done Lperica10 that's amazing for you to of had a opportunity to do that
Thanks for sharing
Nat xx
I spoke at the funeral of a dear family friend who was my neighbour when I was growing up. He and his wife had emigrated to the United States and they were ridiculed for their strong accents by the children in the neighborhood; they never made many friends locally. They were very kind people who were a huge influence in my life, and I enjoyed sharing those details at his (very small) memorial service. I think his family was pleased, and I felt good about my tribute to such a lovely man.
That's a lovely brave thing for you to do Opossumish to pay tribute to your neighbour who played a part in your life I'm sure you made him proud
Thanks for sharing
Nat x
Because my husband died just before a bank holiday and because we had no plans for this ("It wasn't supposed to be like this" was what he was saying when last admitted to hospital after his illness became evident.), the funeral itself was almost 3 weeks after he died.
I had to work out how to go about things. There would be as much time as needed for the gathering of people and committal of his mortal remains. I knew there would be an opportunity to speak and knew at least two people who would. There In advance I did not believe I would be able to speak and had nothing prepared.
However after a number of others had spoken, I realised there was some aspect which I wanted to mention and so rose to my feet and spoke of that part of his life. I was so glad that I did.
For those who didn't but regret it, there are still opportunities to speak of our loved ones and share their lives with others, those who knew them and those who know them only through us and the effect they had on us which has shaped us into the people we are today.
I was 1 of 3 full-time caretakers for my Dad the last 2 yrs of his life because he needed care 24-7 due to the worst health condition I've ever seen, which was PSP or Progressive Supranuclear Palsy which is neurological and gradually prohibits the brain from telling the body how to move. It's like a bag of wet cement has been poured into the body, and gradually hardened. He died 6 months ago. So, we saw it coming since there's no treatment or cure or HOPE for a PSP victim. And I kept thinking I wanted to write a eulogy for his upcoming funeral but try as I might, I could not write the first word until he was gone. So, in a few days' time between his passing and the funeral, I wrote a 4 TYPED pages of eulogy. My grown daughter also spoke and we stood together at the podium. My voice sounded cracked throughout my eulogy, sounding like I was going to burst into heavy tears at any moment and not be capable of continuing but I did. Maybe because I'd been thinking I wanted to do it for 2 years, DAILY because I was with Daddy daily. God. I miss him so much. He was my rock and I'll always miss him but he's with my Mama again and we'll all be together again some sweet day.
GonnaMissDaddy thank you for sharing this it's very touching its so hard to do a speech when your so heartbroken but to actually get up there and do it is fabulous...your daddy was very well taken care of by you and the others he was in the best hands. And for you to type a 4 page eulogy and read it out how very proud will he of been that you and your daughter did that for him...your bound to miss him he played such an important part in your life one nobody will ever fill..
Thank you for sharing
Love Nat xxx
I did that at the funeral of someone close who died fairly recently. It was very difficult but I am glad that things were said. It was important to do that...
I didn't share that I was recently bereaved in a major way since I haven't been strong enough to talk about it, partly because of the circumstances.
It's a second loss this year.
Aww Nathalie99 how very brave you were to do so...any loss is hard enough but to have so many in one year is hard to deal with alone...your stronger than you think..xx
I wish you well here if you need a chat
Love Nat xxx
I wrote the eulogy for my partner's funeral but I knew I would be far too emotional to read it myself. The vicar read the eulogy as arranged.
We will cherish them always Graham, you too. Your thoughts mean so so much, thank you
love Lottie x
I spoke at my Mother-in-law's funeral . I did it for my husband and our children and because no one else felt able to. She was the matriarch of our family and that role seems to have passed to me so I felt it was the right thing to do. She set a high standard for herself and our family, she kept us together through some very difficult times. It needed to be acknowledged. I miss her. Pam
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