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Penis size and sex fantasies

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Is there anything I can do to enlarge my penis without surgery? Also very paranoid about finishing quickly. I have some fantasies I want to try too but wife isn’t interested

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xsevenx

Why are you worried about your penis size? Have a look at this NHS article.

nhs.uk/live-well/sexual-hea...

And this one about finishing quickly

nhs.uk/common-health-questi...

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Worriedman

All the things you read about are thought to be unsafe. Check out utube Dr Rena Malik, she is a a urologist who talks at length about this issue and other things.

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abmikey

I guess most men would want a bigger penis to boost their ego, I’m happy with mine although it’s tiny when soft it’s a grower and does the job when I’m erect, I suppose it depends on what your fantasies are and if your wife isn’t comfortable with them then I guess that wouldn’t be fair on her to help you fulfil those fantasies.

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3simon

Do please believe that there is no way to increase penis size. Even surgery will be unlikely to help.

Loving sex with your wife is the best for both of you. Fantasies should be just that; keep them to yourself!

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ongaku666

I'm sorry to hear you seem to feel insecure about yourself. When in a long term relationship/marriage, it's always best to discuss these things with your partner/wife. This is because we sometimes get stuck in our fears and insecurities, instead of asking if both partners are happy with the sex. Your penis size will absolutely make no difference when pleasing your partner, sex is a whole experience not just penetration.

I've done sex therapy with my partner for about a year and half and have a few pointers to share:

- forget size, ask your partner what he/she likes and to point you in the right direction. Sex toys are always helpful for the ladies, the biggest penis in the world (yuk) will never be as good as some of the best sex toys!

- sensual/foreplay is very important, avoid rushing the experience as you will put too much pressure on yourself especially

- something that you can try that might help to avoid climax is to take moments to focus on squeezing your buttcheeks for a few seconds when you feel close to climaxing. This can help to remove the focus on pleasure, just like distracting yourself with other thoughts would work (this is sex therapist advice!)

- re: fantasies: you might find ways to compromise with your wife on these and again I would suggest talking and finding ways to make them a pleasurable experience. Listening to each other can make sex an exciting experience for both, but obviously you should respect your wife if she doesn't feel comfortable with your fantasies.

Ultimately I hope you understand you have nothing to change but your attitude, if that's the problem here. If your wife is giving bad vibes like that, then that's a whole different discussion. If you feel like it could help, seek the advice of a sex therapist, we had a great experience and it will make your relationship stronger.

Good luck!

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