I was with my ex for almost 2 years, he had type 2 Herpes for almost 20 years and only told me after a few months of unprotected sex. I decided to stay with him and whenever he had a breakout we would not have sex. We split last year and I’ve never had a sore or symptoms of an outbreak. When I went to sexual health clinic they told me they couldn’t test me as I didn’t have a sore and when I asked for the blood test they said there’s no point as it wouldn’t change anything but I’m worried now that I could possibly have it. It’s been 3 years since I first slept with my ex, would I have had a breakout by now or am I worrying for nothing and probably don’t have it? Sorry for long post
No outbreak but do I have herpes?: I was with my ex... - BASHH
No outbreak but do I have herpes?
If you've had no symptoms for that length of time it's highly probable that you are ok. The best thing to do is to mentally assume and accept that you havn't got anything. No point in worrying when there's probably nothing there anyway. Enjoy yourself !! I'm not an expert but i do have genital herpes. The chances of you having caught anything would largely be effected by if and how often your husband has outbreaks. I've had it about 5 years and have only definitely been aware of one outbreak !! However by what i've seen online, outbreaks can vary from zero to maybe 6 or so a year. I believe an outbreak usually lasts 2/3 days. I honestly believe it's unlikely that you've been unlucky. If you had you would most likely have known by now (Theoretically, it can remain dormant for years but i got symptoms after 3-5 days which is more the normal case) I really wouldn't worry about the small chances. I'd prefer not to have it but it really doesn't effect me in any direct way other than been extra careful not to put anyone else at risk. Please do yourself a favour and try to forget about it as there probably isn't even an it !! . I can understand the Clinic not been able to test without a sore but not sure about the part regarding the blood test. If you can't get over the worrying, maybe go back and establish if a blood test would confirm one way or another & if not, why not. Best wishes for future.