Living with herpes 2

[don974]

Hi, I've passed on the herpes virus not knowing I was having an attack.

I'm finding it hard living with the guilt.

I've told her I'll always be there for her

but I don't think she loves me enough for that. It's awful.

what can I say or do.

[mandylou91]

Hi, a lot of people who have the virus have no idea that they have it. You passing this on to her was not out of spite nor was it meant. I think you just need to give her some head space as it's very shocking at first, once she understands the virus I'm very sure she will realise that it's not your fault. Please don't beat yourself up over this and just continue to be there for her

[don974 in reply to mandylou91]

Thank you mandy for your kind reply.

My situation is very upsetting.

[Vpink]

The virus can also be passed on through what is called skin shedding in the area whear the out breaks occur.

That can happen when their appears to be no symptoms.

[markh57]

I was in a similar position I didn't realise I had Herpes. I had had a few symptoms but they were very mild and infrequent. I fact I had a swab taken at the clinic and it was negative. So to my shame I didn't really take it seriously.

At some point I must have had an outbreak that I didn't even notice and gave it to my girlfriend of 6 months. Unfortunately, she had really bad and frequent outbreaks. She never really forgave me and it contributed to the end of our relationship.

These days I always discuss it with anew partner before sex and am very very vigilant for the tiniest of outbreaks.

Passing it on is a huge source of regret though.