I've been sleeping with this guy but he's to big to ... - BASHH
I've been sleeping with this guy but he's to big to fit in and we struggle to get him in is this normal he also says I'm too tight?
First of all don't worry, this is an incredibly common thing to happen.
It may be he's "too big" or when you are having sex you are getting anxious and your pelvic muscles are cramping up or a combination of the two.
To reassure you the vagina itself can take any size of penis (unless you are really tiny and he's a giant, which is unlikely), it's normally the opening to the vagina which can feel tight and hurt.
so...
Step one, buy some personal lubricant from the chemist supermarket and use LOTS and LOTS of it, the slippier the better. It's also important to relax your tummy muscles, if you are worrying it's going to hurt then all your tummy muscles will tighten and it's never going to happen!
Step two... If you are still having problems, head along to a sexual health clinic so they can examine you to make sure the skin outside of the vagina is ok etc. Sometimes just having a professional tell you everything is normal is all thats needed. If they think the cause if spasm of the muscles they might refer you onto a counselor to help you train yourself to relax.
