Parent of an autistic child.

[NanmieJavie]

Hello. How does it make anyone here feel about having an autistic child? For me, I’m still learning of the condition and it’s scary for me honestly. I’ve been told he’ll be able to make it in school and life just like any person would. My son who’s only 4 is still mute, he says few things which I’m happy when he opens his mouth; but scared sometimes he won’t ever say anything that a normal child his age would say. He still doesn’t know his numbers, colors, shapes, or letters as all should know that at his age. I also have a nephew he’s 10 now, and he’s autistic and started talking a lot when he was 4. I always ask my sister of her experiences and how I can have my son develop his motor skills each and every day. Also the surprising thing about my little boy he’s very smart even though he’s a mute. An example of that when I’m scolding him, he knows I’m being serious as he just comes to me with sad eyes or face holds out my hand, and becomes affectionate with me. :3 I guess that’s his way of saying I’m sorry or teary eyed. Another example when I’m cleaning the house he joins me grabbing a broom or mop as he has seen me doing it lots of times. I love my precious boy as god had send me that little angel to my life for a reason, I seriously believe so.

Has anyone experienced anything as I’ve mentioned above with an autistic child of their own or relative?

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Hi Well i'm an autistic Child well bit old now but deemed it having Asperger's

It is a lot of hard work in the early years but later he will surprise you one day.

Part of not talking i think is the brain working out the whats/if's/why for's?

But never think there stupid as taking in info all the time like a sponge

Plus he will always be loving to you.

[Jasperspace]

hi 🙋🏻 there I'm a autistic child/adult I still play with my toys rather than work or look for a woman to date im very shy at meeting others but love cuddles. I went to school but never did any big boy school work as I was always in special need units but got to admit its not all grim been in special needs I've been to (France,lake district & Florida) with special needs schools in UK & isle of man I like my life but just pisses me off when people refare to me as a Retard rather than a normal person it gets me down & depressed then I start to self harm because I cant express my anger towards them as I will just get arrested & sometimes I've tried committing suicide. But deep down I'm a nice person.

I didn't do much GCSE'S in school but I did work experience. After I left school I worked at (( MacDonald's,Tesco,Mannin Landscapes,Blind Center Isle of man ))

now I'm 33 all I do with my life to try & enjoy life is cycle & do photography & build Rc models & play with toys.

but until someone pisses me off by name calling me or bullying me then I relapse & go bk to trying to end my life as I get fed up as normal people don't get called retards its only people who have disabilitys who get called names like that & it needs to stop. ✋🏻

unfortunately I was also muted from birth to age of 19 but as soon as I turned 20 I started to hangout with boyracers in 2004 & swallowed some speed on accident causing me to to open up my expressions & started to talk to loads of strangers I've been supported by ((Social workers & Autism Initives Support workers & key workers)) from 2001-2016 but in 2017 I had a life crisis were I tried to stab myself & cut myself in many places which I was then diagnosed with BPD & between 2017-2018 left me without any social workers nor support workers nor key workers.

I would say if anyone on here has a problem with mental health whilst having autism & there life has a crisis try & ignor the mental health support service as they will just stick another label on a person who needs support & they will offer you anxiety meeting which are run with all types of patients with different mental health problem's not autistic problems they mess up your life so fast.

I wanna thank all my support workers & key workers from Autism initives Isle of man for supporting me & keeping an eye on my wellbeign & for building my confidence up so I can go out in public without having an anxiety attack. I still miss you guys & want you back in my life. Xxx😢

[Jesussurfing4me]

As I sat and read your post, there were parts of it that reminded me so much of me when I was much younger. I'm sixty-four (64) years old and a grandfather of a beautiful six (6) year old moderate to severe grandson who was recently diagnosed with both ADD and ADHD. The main issue with my grandson is for the past five (5) plus years of his young life he's been an IDOL to my daughter-in-law, he's been allowed to do, act, eat treat his now seven (7) year old brother any way He desires, he plays what ever video games he desires to play from the time he wakes up in the morning until he goes to bed, if his brother or anyone else happens to be watching a television show and he decides he wants to watch something different and or play a video game, then that's exactly what takes place, even if it means he has to enforce his will by becoming physically abusive by hitting his mother, grandmother, brother my dogs by hitting, kicking them in the face etc because he throws a tantrum, he's allowed to do that, the rules the older brother has had to live by don't apply to him, he gets special meals at any time. Both my wife and I have lived in this household over the last three (3) years. I finally had enough, and since our son checked out emotionally, I sat down with our daughter-in-law over a period of about a month, but I pretty much told her it's time to grow up, stop feeling sorry for herself, get over it and that everyone is suck of it and the two people who are and will pay the ultimate price is our two grandsons. You see, I met my wife after she gave birth to a severe Down Syndrome son three (3) months earlier, her husband was so embarrassed of having a mentally retarded son, he left her while she was was still in the hospital, his newborn son was undergoing emergency life threatening surgery being only three (3) days old and they didn't believe he would make it, so the Father left and divorced your mother in law. I married her about two (2) years later and I'm the one who worked with Damion every day and by the age of five (5) years old, there wasn't anything he couldn't do. So suck it up and let's go. Every since then there has been a 360 degree change. It's a lot of work but I told her, it's your responsibility to give him the most independent fulfilling life He can have and anything less your robbing it from him.

[Jamtoast]

Hi, I am the parent of a 6 year old Autistic child and I just wanted to reach out as I know it must be very upsetting and stressful for you now, but as you say your boy is smart, you will need to be patient but he will surprise you with his unusual talents, gifts and insights. It is a love like no other. Autistic children have something so special and gentle about them. Never let anyone work with him who doesn't believe that his potential is limitless. The world is changing. Focus on what his interests are and use them to help him focus and motivate his learning and social skills.. in my son's case Lego, technology and numbers have been central but so have stories and imaginative play. Work with him every day, help him to have strong self esteem, don't do things for him that he can do himself, read to him, talk to him constantly, describe what you are doing e.g. when you're doing the dishes, as it will help build his vocabulary. All the best to you both.