Merry Christmas to absolutely everyone!
As usual I am bringing problems for others to help me solve. Sorry.
I have a new man in my life. He's a sweetheart but there's a snag. He smokes.
Cigarette smoke and my chest simply do NOT get along and I can almost hear other chests on the board coming out in sympathy as I type. We've been together for about 3 months and I'm finding that after we've been in an enclosed space together for a while my symptoms are worse and the following day I feel really rotten. So far I've only shown bad signs of coughing in front of him once and he seemed very concerned at the time. It passed with the use of my Salbutamol inhaler and at the time I thought it might be enough to stop him smoking around me quite so much. Unfortunately he's still puffing away and I'm finding it's bothering me enormously.
I've asked friends what I should do to tackle the problem and have been met with lots of ""Dump him"" remarks which aren't helpful. I don't want to dump him and don't see why I need to at this stage. I need some advice from the wise folk of this forum! I need some diplomatic phrases that won't make him feel over-guilty for having a vice (I have one or two myself) but will be enough to make him a tad more considerate. I'm sure he would be if he knew how much his habit is affecting my health - I just don't know how to put it. I don't want it to get to the stage where only him witnessing me having a nasty attack is the only way to get the message across.
Thanks in advance for any help - I'm sure I'm not the first person here to have this kind of problem.
Big hugs, Fluffy. x