Loneliness?

Ok so this is probably going to sound really weird but...when I am having an attack particularly a severe or prolonged one I just feel really alone? I think maybe it's to do with just being really scared and not being able to speak to anyone? Anyway I figure it probably isn't good for the asthma to feel like that so I was kind of wondering if anyone has any tips/ideas of how to deal with it? Does anyone else ever get this? It's kind of been brought back to the front of my mind recently because last time I was taken to hospital a teacher didn't come with me and my mum wasn't there for a couple of hours and I started to get the feeling even though the attack wasn't too bad. The worst time was when I was on a school trip I had a really severe attack and ended up on ITU and my teacher didn't stay and I was in a different part of the country with no one I knew around me. Maybe I'm just being really weird and stupid? But I just feel so much better if there's a familiar face or someone to hold my hand and say it's ok?

Anyway sorry for the ramble, but if anyone has any tips I'd really appreciate it!

Caroline

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  • i think everyone feels alone as even with someone by yourside they dont know what your going through unless they have had the same kind of attacks as us but your not but stupid i totally understand were your comming from i always get scared and feel alone even if i have 20 people round me but try and keep your chin up all of us or atleast 99 percent of us on here have been in the same boat as you more than once or twice take care hun and feel free to pm me anytime for a chat xxxxxx

  • loneliness

    I agree it can seem to be lonely when your carted from a normal activity & end up in hospital. Maybe u can ask t ur teachers to contact ur family before they leave my brother stays until parents come. (Put that request in your file)

    The staff are fully trained so will help you adjust cos athma isn't good if ur upset too. I used to be scared but i learnt to make myself be seen not just as a patient but a person whose just very ill at that moment. I am always asking when i can go home which makes them laugh because thats unlikely with brittle asthma. it breaks the ice. Take it easy

    Gill

  • Hey Caroline, you are not alone in feeling alone :-)

    Firstly, when you are in the care of ITU nurses and docs you are in the Rolls Royce of care - they shame many other nurses and docs IMPO - so just try to remeber that at those times you are getting the best possible care going.

    Secondly, I believe that no one is ever alone. I am a Spirtualist and I believe that we are watched over and looked after even at the worst of times - especially at the worst of times. But this is the way that I think and feel and I have come to this after many years of thinking, after many years of going through difficult times and, well, after many years as I am somewhat older than yourself.

    What I am trying to say that, in time, you will develop your own way of coping and dealing with this - basically, whatever gets you through the night, so to speak, and if it works for you then it works for you. Hey, why not use the time to grill the docs and nurses about their jobs - you never know, it might be the foundations of a future medical career... Doctor Caroline...

    Don't worry about rambling and ranting... the best people do... it is a sign of emotional intelligence and shows that you are a caring individual with a unique personality and not a mindless drone...

    Finally, here are a couple of links that make me smile.

    The Poo Song

    Everything's going to be OK

  • Maybe you could look into counselling, You've obviously had a bad experience before and so whenever you have an attack now, you immediately think back to that lonely and scary time. A counsellor will discuss the event with you and help you think of it in a different way so it doesn't reoccur whenever you're ill.

  • hi Amydoll,I also feel alone when my asthma is bad,im the only one in the family with it and do feel scared when need to go to hospital.Best thing I ever did was to join AUK its beed a god send to me and feel alot more settled having friends about on here to chat to.welcome pm any time.love Glynisxxxxps- having someone with you makes you feel relaxed and keep you company around strangers xxx

  • hi Amydoll,I also feel alone when my asthma is bad,im the only one in the family with it and do feel scared when need to go to hospital.Best thing I ever did was to join AUK its beed a god send to me and feel alot more settled having friends about on here to chat to.welcome pm any time.love Glynisxxxx

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