Feelings after a significant event.

Hi

This has been something that has been on my mind for a long time and I just wanted to share it with you and also wondered if anyone can help me understand this.

In the Summer of 2008 I suffered a severe anaphylactic reaction and because i also had uncontrolled asthma (due to non cooperation with medications prescribed) i was left close to death requiring resuscitation.

Most nights I dream about the events which led to this and feel more emotional and tearful most of the time. I am not depressed but just don't seem able to move on from this incident.

It was so significant in my life and i regret everything that i did, where i was responsible, which contributed to this.

I am lucky to be alive and thankful for every day that i spend with my family, so why do i still dream about this after 18 months.

Has anyone else experienced this and what do i need to do to move on emotionally.

Thanks and I hope i havn't upset anyone else by sharing this event but i am not sure where to go with this worry.

Pinky

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HI Pinky

It will take time as you had a real fright.

Would be nice to talk to a counselor to help you,they are there to

help you come to terms with past problems and help you to cope with your future.

Try not to worry and just be aware of what you have to do to stay safe.

lots of love Glynis.

ps I also had a problem that was hard to get my head around and talking does help xxxxx

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Hi I know how you feel, I had a stroke 2 years ago at the age of 38, I had got stressed as my Son has brittle asthma and was sleeping over my shoulder to ease his breathing, the local hospital just kept sending my Son home. I couldn't sleep and the stress got me. Every time my arm or leg goes numb when I sleep, I think it's happening again and panic ( my stroke happened when I was on pethadine for a severe pain across my head which was worse than childbirth and had lasted 3 weeks, I was asleep and woke up unable to move my left side or talk). I'm not overweight and I usually have low blood pressure.

Sometimes things happen in life, I have been careless of my health in my youth, but I've been sensible since having children. Don't beat yourself up over it cr*p happens. See if you can get professional help from the Doctor or talk to a friend. I'm lucky my hubby and I talk about what happened and occasionally I have a cry which lasts for hours but God do I feel better afterwards.

Like you I feel lucky to be alive and only now after 2 years have only just really moved on, I take the advice of a poem I once heard,so I dance like no-one can see me, sing like no-one can hear me and love like I've never been hurt.

Take care and hope life moves on for you too

Kate x

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Hi Pinky, we all do some silly things at one time or another in life, and most importantly you have acknowledged that happened was in part a physical contribution your self. There was obviously a reason why you did what you did, and I suppose you now carry a certain amount of emotional guilt about it. My dear father recently said that worrying achieves nothing, and the best thing we can do sometimes in life is move on and use the experience as a lesson for the future. Sometimes that is very difficult for someone to do, so like Glynis think you would benefit from some counselling right now. So rather than set your set a load of New Year resolutions for 2010, make a point of making little steps to address this major issue.

So step 1, make an appointment with your GP and tell him about the emotional difficulties and ask him/her to help you get right back on track.

Good Luck Katina

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Oh dear Pinky, sorry you are having a difficult time. Its not easy but you really need to put this behind you. I'm not dismissing the awfulness of your experience but its time to say yes that was awful and scary and probably could have been avoided but ITS OKAY. I'm still here, and i've learnt from it ie you almost certainly will be complying with your meds now. Tell yourself its in the past and you are in the now and its okay. Yes it would have been better for that to not have happened but it has, but its not happening now and nor is it likely to happen in the future.

Try to focus on all the good and positive things in your life and move forward and enjoy the now rather than dwelling on the past. It isn't easy to do but once you start to put it behind you it will feel so much better. Give yourself a pep talk - tell yourself its okay things can only get better now and start to enjoy life again without bad memories detracting from your sense of well being. I don't say this lightly i have had my fair share of resuss experiences but i have managed to put a line under them and focus on the now. Hope you manage to move on and if not maybe go and see your GP hope you have a very peaceful and happy new year, take good care, Lois

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Hey

I know exactly what you are going through - I too have had a ""significant event"" in which i nearly died (i was ventilated and on intensive care for several months, with only a 5% chance of pulling through) and for a while after that I had terrible nightmares. I couldn't sleep for the fear that I'd never wake up again, and this went on for months and months afterwards - even now, 3 years later, I still feel the same sometimes.

On th ICU I was on, I had to go back for some sort of review as to how I was coping after the experience - did you not get this? If not, it might be worth going back and seeing if there is someone you can talk to, or if there is no-one specific for the job, ask if you can chat to one of the nurses who looked after you. It helps to talk about these things at times.

Whilst right now it might not feel it, this is a perfctly normal thing to feel after such a thing happening, and is well recognised in happening in people after critical illness, of course your body is going to be shocked by it all!! Feel free to PM me if you wanna chat or as me anything, I'd be glad to try and help.

All the best

Emz x

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Hi

Thank you all for your replies and the PMs i have received.

You have all helped me accept that although this was a serious and life threatening event, i survived and taking more responsibility for my health day to day will help reduce the risk of a similar incident in the future.

I cannt help appreciating every day that i am alive and with my family and maybe thats not such a bad thing and the guilt, well that will take time to deal with.

Thanks all and wishing you good health and happiness for 2010.

Pinky