I have 3 amazing children all with there own medical issues of varing degrees and I have know had 3 miscarriages. Miscarriage number 3 was a surprise when I found out I wa pregnant as hubbie had the snip almost 3 years ago so a very determined little one managed tp get through. But I want to be sterilised. hubbie had the snip done as I was refused to be sterilised as at the time I was only 24 and just given birth. Well I kave asked again today if I can be sterilised and again they said no because I am only 27 and because I had the miscarriage only yesterday. I don't want more children and niether doe smy hubbie I feel 3 is enough for me and with all there medical issues on top of it as well I just haven't got the strenght to bring another child into the world and risk them also having medical issues even if it is only a repeat of the ones we already with. Do think they are right refusing to even think about sterilising me or am I just being a hormonal wreck and all I can see is in again years down the line find out I am pregnant again. We always seem to bet the odds, my daughter wa sonly a 10% chance of her being a girl because of a genetic issue I have, very hard to xplai nbut basicly I hd an bad gene and it is one of the genes that determines what type of pregnancy you have and mine is bad when it comes down to girls and then my youngest son was conceived while I was taking the mini-pill and I didn't fin dout until I was 9 weeks pregnant I was pregnant with him which has lead to him having neurological issues due to th epill affecting the way his brain developed dueing those early weeks before I came off the pill and know this pregnancy that has ended at 6 weeks, less than 1% chance of getting pregnant and what happens we fall into that less than 1%. I in the way the doctors are looking at it as well what happens if your 15 year relationship goes bad and you get divorced and meet another bloke and decide you want to have children with him. I completely understand this but hay I have been with my hubbie know for 15 years and we are still as where back in the very early days of our relationship. We even get people when they say ""arhh newly wed bliss isn't it sweet"" and me and hubbie both laugh and say ""We came out of that label almost 8 years ago."" I already nkow that if we did even split up I wouldn't want more children still even if I did meet another bloke as the way I look at it is if years, mainy years down the line we do decide we want more children we can go down the route of fostering or even adoption. Our world is open to new adventures and challenges and I don't want that adventure to end up with yet another complicated pregnancy and even a pregnancy that ends in miscarriage. We can't go private as we can't afford it so that option is out the window I just can't see any other options as doctors have even refused to allow me to go back on the pill or use some other form of birth control just because hubbie has had the snip
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