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Lonely and confused

It sucks to be in a relationship and still feel alone. Wanting more time with the person you are with seems like a good thing but I guess I’m wrong. Two days a week does not seem enough when you are engaged to someone. I shouldn’t have to beg for attention. I’m not a perfect size and I’m not beautiful and I might not ever find someone else who loves me but I shouldn’t be alone so much in a relationship. I shouldn’t spend holidays and my birthday alone. It’s embarrassing always making excuses why he’s not there during times that you are suppose to be with the ones you love. Tomorrow is my birthday and nothing is planned not a gift not even a simple dinner cooked for me or flowers. His time would just be enough but again I will spend it by myself. It’s hard to think about breaking things off I can’t find away to make that choice. I’m so lost and lonely.

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It is difficult to end a relationship when you are in love. There are two choices, let the relationship run it’s course and maybe end up hurt and coping with the breakup anyway after wasting more time or find a way to muster up the courage to say this is not working for me and move on. To make the decision to move on you must mean it; if he tries to come back with the same behavior you can not accept it. There is someone out there for you but the more time you waste the longer it will be before you meet him. Be brave and do what is best for you. You deserve it.