Hello, I'm in my mid-30's and have always been shy. It's now getting to the stage that whenever I get asked a question about myself I instantly go red and start sweating. The sweating is what's really getting me down I'm always wet under my arms and it restricts what I can wear because always conscious of it. I have never been self confident and I know that my problems stem from having a controlling father who didn't allow me to go out freely with friends hence now I only have a handful of friends!!
I have a 3 year old and don't want to pass my anxiety and shyness onto him
Can anyone suggest what therapy would be best for me.
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I can relate to this very much, like I said in my last blog I just want to take a pill and it will all go away. I've herd of CBT but never had it myself .
Hi,
Me too, controlling, anal father lol, nothing I done was good enough, I'm in my 40s now and he can still get to me when my fuck what u think barrier is down.
Speak to your GP. He may be able to prescribe something for the sweating and refer you to councilling for CBT. It's worth a try, right.
I wish you all the best Lou. Xxxx let us know how you go xxx
As stupid as it sounds I'm even too embarrased to go to my GP about the sweating - it's a vicious circle!! I will look into CBT.
Thankfully my father is no longer a part of my life but the damage has already been done!!
Hiya,
Interesting I had a authoritarian father, whatever I did wasn't good enough, and still isn't although he's mellowed a bit now. Or is it i've accepted they way he is with me, and dont allow his comments to affect me anymore.
Shy, yes most definately, I used to hide under the table when people came round aged 5, which was rare.
Flushed face, yes, I grew out of this by learning to not be so self-conscious, I just said hi, and kept quiet, till I got used to the person and gauged there characters then was able to talk gradually to them.
We can only do our best, if you dont want to pass it on as you say, do some practice on your coping techniques, practice, practice, remember there's a lot worse things you could pass on to him, like being cruel, aggressive, etc.
Your character has redeeming features so just hope he will pick up on some of them, my son did, he's not shy, a bit anxious in very rare situations, but a very happy lad, that cares for others.
I like the Dr. Claire Weekes method, with some talking therapy, so you can come to terms with your father, and no doubt your mother too. I had to have EMDR therapy as well, and to be honest that was the one thing that started be getting better quickly.
Talk to the doc about the sweating, as there may be something he can suggest as well as some therapy on the NHS, unless you have some cash in which case, i'd ask about EMDR with councilling, and a book.
Saying this, are you under the docs? are you taking prescribed drugs?
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I just want to feel normal again!
Of balance and never feel normal 
Is it normal to feel this way?
Can't remember what feeling normal feels like 
