Fear of getting on the bus.

[seyi]

Good Morning all

My Doctor is talking about phasing me back into work lawd!!!! the thought scares me. Not because of the work because i love the job i do and believe my impact on children's education. I am in a mainstream school but work with children sometimes with Special Education Needs (Autism etc.,

The big issue is i can only get to work by bus sounds stupid but it take 45/60 mins depending on traffic and i am struggling to get on the bus. Fear and anxiety make me feel sick dizzy and terribly uncomfortable. On some days i have trouble leaving my home. My safe haven.

I know i have to face this before i visit the Doctor to enable me to return to work any suggestions on how i can master this.

Thank you all for your support and advice.

I love this site because people are genuine and understand issues that are difficult for people who are not suffering to fully understand.

Hope everyone is having a good day.

Hugs

Love Seyi xxxx

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Hi seyi,

Its not about the bus........its about you understanding yourself, getting comfortable sitting in your body and feeling safe. Then nothing will faze you, its also about practice of course too.

So get your coping strategies rock solid, I write mine in a small pad, and get them out if needed.

Work on the basics then start off by doing one stop journey's then add ( CBT stuff ) take someone with you too start with, but in the end its you that needs to do it on your own, sitting comfortably in your own body, its your real home and the only safe haven we really do have.

To be honest I can only get about driving, and need to work on this, I haven't been on a bus or train since 1989

Wishing you well

B

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[seyi]

Thanks baylien for your advice all makes sense what you are saying, i have been making the same journey for seven years but since i have been off work the journey now seems the major issue. I suppose its the thought of being alone in case something happens.

I will start with a short journey and then build upon this.

I thank you sincerely for you sound advice.

Hugs

Love Seyi xxx

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Hi Seyi

You are doing so well since joing this site , I can see the progress & its great

This might sound crazy , but its how I deal with things or would

I would do some trail runs on the bus before the actual going back , knowing that if at any time I want to get of before I am there I can

Reason I say this is I have found with me when I feel I have a choice , I seem to face things better

For instance the statins ...if I sit all day thinking I have to take another one tonight , I will get so anxious I will no doubt not be able to but , if I tell myself well when tonight comes I have a choice , its up to me , it takes the pressure of & no doubt I will take one because it makes me feel in control & not pressured

That's why I would do a few journeys on the bus before I went back , while I knew I had control & could get of if I wanted

Don't no if that makes any sense

I have every faith in you & I no you can & will do this

We are all here for you

Love

whywhy

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Excellent whywhy," we always have a choice " i'll remember that later when I'm sitting in the dentist chair getting my nerve taken out. The dentist is good, he lets me get up and take a breather if I need to and it does make such a difference.

seyi

You will put me to shame when you start and suceed,

i'll have a go at the train, soon

and work up to smelly buses

B

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The old root canal is it B

I had one done in Jan , worked myself up as I have had them done before so knew what was coming , nearly fainted before I got in there , but he was great with me & I didn't feel a thing

Same with me they talk to me all the way through & tell me to put my hand up if I want them to stop , which once I did & it went wrong I sent the dental nurse flying across the room

But yes all the way there & before , say I have a choice , because we do , might help you feel in control

Good luck , soon be home

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I'll let you know how I get on, I'm totally cacking myself, as I dont take any drugs anymore for the anxiety, and it all stemmed from trauma at a dentists when I was 9 yrs old. Hope that blooming EMDR works

[seyi in reply to Hidden]

Good Luck baylien let us know how it goes

Hugs

Love Seyi.

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I will, if I dont get a heart attack lol.

god , I want a valium

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It will ...bet you blog later & you are ok , will look out

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[seyi in reply to Hidden]

Laughing about the smelly buses your not wrong.

Hugs

Love Seyi xxx

[Hidden in reply to seyi]

Yes I struggle with my OCD , dreadfully on buses

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