I tend to worry about upsetting people. I don't like to let people down with arrangements, I guess most of the time that's why I don't make any, it's better for me that way.
Most of the people around me are fine with that they have somehow blended in with the way i am, which is good...
I have a couple of recent friends as I am new to my area, and when I got here I was ok, not going through any anxieties etc...problem is I don't want these people to know I suffer and it's a small area of people in a small place so tell one and you tell them all, if you know what I mean. They presume I'm going to be there at functions and there are a couple coming up, unfortunate for me one of people who organises this is a very possessive type and does take offence if you don't go, as I am liked this person will do anything to get me there, I'm not good at telling lies. So when I get the call,text I have decided just to say I can't make it...it's annoying, and sad because its because I'm not well I'm not going and do not wish them to know. Why do people have to be like this I would never push someone, I would ask and say I'd love you to be there but wouldn't make an issue of it. Sometimes it makes me feel angry too. It puts unnecessary pressure on me. I have tried to explain in a nice way I like to do my own thing, but it falls on deaf ears...
This person has now invited someone who I won't see often, and in passing the other day said 'oh you will have to come as ..... Is coming down' it seems to me some people will go to any lengths to force you to do something and its one of my anxieties....without going into too much detail this person has a vetted interest in getting numbers to the venue,
Then when I do decide to go makes snide comments about me not going , I really do not need this rubbish.......