Why I'm feel like a looser? It's hard to feel as anyone likes me.

[Maucsg]

I'm experiencing thoughs and feelings as I'm nothing and it hurts me. I don't know why, I'm doing very well in my life, like having succeed in my career, I have an awesome family, but in the social field I think that I'm no one. I'm obsessed to improve my social skills but I can't do it. I find difficult to maintain friends, because this horrible feeling of being no one or thinking like people don't find me interesting. Sometimes I feel like I bother people and this inhibits me to have good relationships. I feel very alone, and when I feel like that I want to call my ex girlfriend but it's the worst solution because It can't be anymore and also she hurts me. I'm struggling to overcome this feeling but it results on depression. When people acts inapropiate I'm feel very guilty like it's my fault because I'm lacking of social skills and I think that I could have done something better to avoid that. Hope your advices, Mau..

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Hi. Maucsg. Anxiety and depression affect everyone differently. In your case it is a kind of Social phobia. Now this is not something to be alarmed about because, like all these types of anxiety symptoms, they can be overcome. You are NOT strange, you are DIFFERENT. You seem to be trying to force yourself into being something you are not. We can't all be social animals. The 'socials skills' as you call them cannot be forced. They come naturally or not at all. The secret lies in being yourself. You are you. A unique human being with attributes and 'skills' no one else has. I bet, if I knew you, I could find dozens of excellent traits in you that you seem to have overlooked. You have a good family! Well, you got something right, didn't you? Are you putting yourself down? Your relationship with them seems OK. Can you talk to anyone about how you feel. A good councillor may help you get back your self esteem and confidence. Don't feel guilty. It's not your fault. Events, circumstances, catch up with us all and we get very confused. Go out; mix, but BE YOURSELF. And you are NOT alone. Others on this site often go through exactly what you are going through now. Good luck and best wishes. jonathan.