Bad moods, anyone?

[BriarRose]

Does anyone else suffer from times when they find themselves in a really bad mood, for no real reason? I sometimes wake up fighting with everyone, and I don't like myself like that very much!

[Pickle165]

Hi........yes my hormones go mental esp when im due on but lately i just feel like im in a low bad mood all the time esp earlier in the day. x

[BriarRose]

Hi Sam - well, unfortunately i can't blame my hormones, being of - er... mature years - but just sometimes I just wake up "fighting" with everyone in my life - with or without reason! It's horrible, and I really don't like myself when I'm like this! Thank God i live alone so don't spread it around! xxxx

[Pickle165]

HI, i know how frustrating it is, the past two weeks ive been in a low mad mood and im only just due on so i cant blame that. i want to go out in to the middle of a field and scream my head off, and im dreading christmas.......everyone is so bloody happy, sorry i know i sound like a right cow. x

[PoppyRose in reply to Pickle165]

Hmmmm.... are they though? First of all they're not happy, they're in a temporary man-made frenzied state and have bought in to an idea. So sorry - who's the one with fickle minds?? LOL!

I do go out in the middle of a field... but just sit there... and take in the beauty and thank the Lord I'm not like the rest of 'them', that I take time out to think about out me and my life. Almost like a mediation I suppose - though not intentional. Then the dog drags me off to more interesting parts when he's done.

Don't be too harsh.

[Pickle165 in reply to PoppyRose]

hmmm........i dont believe they are all really unhappy, i dont think people can really act that well to be honest. dont think its being harsh just reality........

[PoppyRose in reply to Pickle165]

err.. oh dear.... I meant don't be too harsh on' yourself.'

Yes, I am cynical I suppose due to what I've experienced with some people. i.e. confiding in me, (so being a friend I support them) ,then showing to others how perfect it all is. I've a couple of very close friends and they say they do it because it's how they cope... don't want others to know how they really feel. Work colleagues calling me at home in tears is another one; because of problems with someone at work then off out socialising with them... honestly some of the things I see.

Confuses me no end.

[rouri]

sorry Rose, i put it down to hormones, they just out of wack hun it seems your sisters gave you a hard time that you can't get over it maybe this time!!

sending you hugs and kisses

xx

[BriarRose]

Thanks, my loves! I mean, I think I'm really a nice person, but when I get in this mood, I really don't like myself at all! And, as I'm fighting with (almost!) everyone else, doesn't leave many people to like! I want to HIT something - not, thank God, someONE! xxx

[Pickle165 in reply to BriarRose]

what did your sisters do to you if you dot mind me asking? x

[BriarRose in reply to Pickle165]

Hi Sam - sorry for taking so long to reply What did my sisters do? God, how long have you got It's not a single, definable thing, it's more an attitude. I'm the youngest, the poorest (although the best qualified!) - and in some ways they treat me like I'm 6 rather than 60+, in other subtle ways they seem to imply that "everything" is my fault! They seem to put me down at every possible opportunity, then blame me for being "down there" - if that makes any kind of sense? They can be good in small ways, but it's very much "crumbs from the table" - in my view, anyway. It's been going on a long time, and I'm an idiot for putting up with it for so long; I'm JUST beginning to challenge them, but it's a long and painful process, which, as we're in our early 60s (me) to early 70s (eldest) will probably never be finished - well, not in this lifetime! Just one example,okay from 30 years ago, when I graduated from university, in my early 30s, as a mature student, with a 1st Class degree (the first and only one of my generation to do so!) - NO-ONE from my family was "able" to attend!!!! A few months ago, they were due to come over for "afternoon tea" - okay, mugs of tea and a bought cake! They arrived 30 minutes late, because sisters and my one surviving brother in law had been out to this WONDERFUL pub and had this WONDERFUL meal, which i was told all about - oh and no, they hadn't brought any cake cos they were "stuffed" - I'd had a cheese sandwich for lunch. I blame myself, I ought to have said "I've never heard anything so rude and insensitive in my life!" - but I'm too "well-trained"! I'm getting there, but, as I say, might be a bit too late!

Love

Rose

xxxx

[ellabella]

Hi Rose, I am at my worst in a morning and sometimes , well, most times it's because my life seems so futile and useless. I also think it's just as well I live alone . Bless you love, you make a lot of my days bearable as well as many others on this site. Stuff Christmas!!! the only people I know that are looking forward to it are the children....that was the only time I looked forward to it as well. Love and Hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[BriarRose]

Aww hun, your life isn't futile - certainly not to me, I'm SO glad we met! You're kind and caring and funny, and you've made my life better too, my love! Christmas doesn't bother me - I sort of ignore it - send the odd card, get some food in that I like - not necessarily Christmassy - then curl up with TV/DVD whatever. I find if you don't try too hard to "make" Christmas - it happens! Love and hugs back, my sweet! xxxxxxxxxxxxx

[lisabunny44]

Hi Ladies!! im the exact same one example the other day our internet went off and i wanted to fight the world and felt such rage so instead i shouted at my husband.. this just isnt like me im normally really bubbly...... Lisa x

[Pickle165 in reply to lisabunny44]

the closest too us always take the full brunt of it ........lucky they love us. x

[fadedlizard]

Hi Rose,

Yes, I'm like this too. I blame PMT too but truthfully all that does is magnify what's already there. And some days I could start a fight in an empty room!!!!

It's much worse in a morning too as my anxiety/depression are worse then anyway. I'm trying to train my colleagues not bring me any trivial problems before lunch as it never ends well!!!!

[BriarRose in reply to fadedlizard]

Hi FL

I've often wondered - do you think depression/anxiety etc is - at least partly/sometimes - really suppressed rage/anger? I often feel there's an absolute well of anger inside me, which, as members of a civilised society, we've been "trained" not to let out - well, not in bashing people over the head with a blunt object lol - and have maybe never found an acceptable way to deal with.

Just a thought?

Love

Rose

xxxx

[VincentVega]

PMT,mood swings, hormones, quick vinny we outer here bro,

[BriarRose in reply to VincentVega]

LOL! Well, i was talking about (not!) bashing people's heads in - not macho enough for you - bro?

[VincentVega in reply to BriarRose]

of course our english rose, you know me, i can handle anything, im doing one handed press ups while writing this, but not er! womens stuff thats off limits, im like a little bunny in the headlights, happy place vinny happy place

[BriarRose in reply to VincentVega]

!!!!

[BriarRose in reply to VincentVega]

PS My sister once suggested I buy my teenage nephew some underpants for Christmas/birthday. This maiden aunt took one baffled look at the bewildering array on offer - and fled to Boots to get him a batter-operated toothbrush! xx

[BriarRose in reply to BriarRose]

Or even batterY-operated!

[VincentVega]

lol safe option rose, i like it, that would be me too x