Bad relationship

I know now I deserve better than this relationship iam in. I been with him for 10 years he has made me more unhappy than happy. It took me this long to see how controlling he can try and be and try to manipulate me I was so in love with him that I covered my eyes to the truth. He knows how to make u feel bad for him. This relationship was never worth fighting for but I was in love with him I was trying so hard to be a family and he all ways say to me he would change. Now he wounds why I changed towards him. When I needed him the most he was not there for me he let me do the hards things on my own. I dont know if I can trust another man again. I can't get out of this relationship just yet but when I get my chance iam going to take it and go. I know now I deserve better and I deserve to be happy. I can see him for what he really is One day I will be free from this nightmare and I will finely get my life back.

[Delzek]

As Wounded Soldier says US Males can be foolish! But Hopefully we are not all of a Controlling nature. If you are in a Toxic relationship? Then don't wait get out now, those who are manipulative, Controlling or both can be dangerous when they feel they are losing control over the other person, even resorting to violence or worse. There are always places of Safety to go to, your local Police will help with that if you are in the UK, USA or Canada, I believe Australia and New Zealand also have the same kind of help/accommodation available. A Manipulative or Controlling person will Never change. I know this as I have seen it too often

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I know there is lovely man out there it's just my truest has gone iam just so worried on getting the wrong one again. He says if I get a new bf down the line he would hurt him . He says things to make me scared and says things to try to control me and he has a way to make you feel sorry for him

[FearIsALiar]

Why can’t you get out of the relationship just yet? It’s better to get out now rather than sticking around waiting for the “perfect time” to do it. The perfect time is NOW! I was in a horrible toxic relationship and I got out and so can you!! You deserve better. Please get out of there. You have our support. Keep us updated !!

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I need money to move out iam struggling to get work now because of covid 19

[FearIsALiar in reply to Hidden]

I understand. You are still able to do it. Have hope and faith! You got this and you always will have our support.

[Windsorgardener5087]

Hi, Confirming controlling behavior is a type of domestic violence. Contact with your local police station is the right first step for expert advice and support. You need a safety plan to leave your relationship and support when you do. I am in Australia and the police depts have domestic violence units (DVUs). As has been suggested, don't leave the decision to go any longer.

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Iam going to do things carefully to get out

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Thank you unfortunately I know things will not change things are just getting harder he is all ways angry becouse him and hes dad are moody at each other and he ends up taking it out on me. Now a days I can't say nothing to him I all ways have to watch out what I say so he dont get angry when he is angry he throws things at the walls and even at me and gets close to my face he has all ready pushed me to the floor last year .

[Agora1]

dearest glitterangel, I just saw your post today. It's been a long hard road for you

but am happy to hear that the light has finally gone on. Love is not always the best

option for staying with an abusive partner. You deserve better than you have gotten over the years. I'm proud of you for making the decision to go forward. It's all about timing and staying safe. I believe in you and always have from the start. You have proven your strength and determination in so many ways. Now is the time, to pave a new road for yourself

and your children. The man you deserve is out there and when you least expect him, he will

show up in your life. Take this next step carefully and stay safe. We are always here for you. Hugs, xx

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Thank you so much