I need help

[DoggieLoverbon]

My anxiety is ruining my life. I can’t keep a job, I can’t keep a social life, I can barely handle my own relationship at this point. I’m struggling so hard to find happiness and I can’t do it. I’m on medication but it helps with my panic attacks not my anxiety. I’m so miserable and I don’t know what to do with myself anymore. I just need advice and help, I can’t afford a therapy. I’m a 19 year old who’s parents are hardly part of my life. I moved out when I was 18 because me and my mom didn’t get along. I have no family. I work full time to support myself and I feel like I’m losing every grasp of my young life that’s offered to me. And I hate it so much. I can’t even go to school because of this. I just need help.

[DoggieLoverbon]

I work night shift also so it doesn’t help me anymore.

[Greensummer18]

Hi, DoggieLoverbon! I'm really sorry to hear you are struggling, but I promise you are not alone. I understand what you mean when you say you are miserable and you don't know what to do with yourself. That's basically my life right now. I am 18, so we're close in age. You can message me anytime. I am here for you. Sending love ❤

[TheBlackdog]

Hi my lovelies, you are both much younger than me to be going through this. I think mine started around 22. If I were you I would go back to the doctor yo tell them about your anxiety if you haven't already. They should be able to support you somehow and give you some advice. Also it's worth telling them that you are on your own with no family and they might set up a referral from some support in the community to monitor you basically. I know the mental health service is struggling to cope with demand but my motto is if you dont ask you dont get. Its always a possibility that your medication is not working for you. I took one for years for the fear of the unknown. In the end i took the bull by the horn and changed medication, I'd had enough of repetitive illness and putting myself of losing my job , my livelihood. Much better now, still get a blip every now and again but nothing like before.

On another path I would try and change your working hours to work day shifts or get another job in the day. What's really important is face to face communication, socialising with people and getting sunlight or daylight, vitamin D in you. You could but a light box for light therapy in the home so you can have artificial daylight on tap. Also take a look at your diet. Eating well can have a good effect on your mood and keeping well hydrated all day. If you need to sleep on occasion then do it but you need routine. I wouldn't recommend night shifts to anyone, especially someone who has anxiety/depression. It might transform your life. Getting some exercise each week and having a small goal to work towards each day, week or month is positive and increases your confidence. Be kind to yourself, give yourself a reward for achieving a goal perhaps.

Another method that really helped me was mindfulness x