How does anxiety affect your professional life?

[Staciel]

Anxiety is a burden alone, and when you have goals to attain, to develop professionally it's all can become too much. How do you cope with it?

[kenster1]

in my last job with extreme difficulty as I had a breakdown but I felt forced to keep going till the end.

[Staciel in reply to kenster1]

Do you regret that you were forced to go till the end? How do you feel know?

[kenster1]

before I took the job I was promised all sorts of grants to gain more skills and gain other certificates that appealed to me as I don't have any.after a couple of months my dad became ill then died his funeral took just over 3 weeks.i went straight back to work then I suffered my mental breakdown my boss ignored my emails and txts my other boss said what you were off nearly a month because your dad died like it meant nothing.when I had the breakdown I had to suffer in silence with no help whatsoever.the only thing that got me through was that our work had a dart board and I love darts so kept playing to distract my thoughts.

[Staciel in reply to kenster1]

I'm sorry to hear it.

What about now? You feel depressed?

Have you taken any medicine or went to a therapist?

[kenster1 in reply to Staciel]

taking medication been waiting since October for therapy had initial appointment but will be may before I start.i have really down days decent days no two are the same.

[Staciel in reply to kenster1]

Does medication help?

Hope your therapy will go well.

[kenster1 in reply to Staciel]

it did for a long period of time but its had its drawbacks.

[Staciel in reply to kenster1]

You mean side effects?

I've never taken any medicine except valerian and drinking herbal, calming teas.

[kenster1 in reply to Staciel]

never had any side effects health wise.

[Staciel in reply to kenster1]

So what are the drawbacks, then?

[kenster1 in reply to Staciel]

ruining my relationship to a certain extent.

[Staciel in reply to kenster1]

Ouch, well that's not really pleasant.

[kenster1 in reply to Staciel]

no its not obviously that leads me to having down periods defo want to try come off them again soon.

[Staciel in reply to kenster1]

Good luck with that.

It's sad when people can not live to the fullest because of the anxiety.

[Crotchet1]

With difficulty .

[Staciel in reply to Crotchet1]

Yeap, I understand you. You like crocheting?

[Crotchet1]

Yes I really enjoy crochet and have made a lot of projects like my blanket and Granny Square throws one I made for my daughter. And now Iam knitting a hat for my friend which I have never done before so I hope he is not too critical!!

In a way it is therapeutic for me although with osteo-arthritis in my right middle finger do have to take breaks when doing a big project.

[Staciel in reply to Crotchet1]

Does it make you happy and help you forget about anxiety?

[Crotchet1 in reply to Staciel]

Yes sometimes but with my worries about my man friend it will not change for how I want it to go.

[Staciel in reply to Crotchet1]

What kind of worries?

[Crotchet1 in reply to Staciel]

My friend asked me if I had heard about Friends For Benefits and I had heard from my manageress about it but I did not think it would happen to me. But feel upset that he is not interested in relationships because of being self-employed with 2 shops and his elderly parents. Then he had told me 2 days ago that an old girlfriend from 31 yrs ago rang him up and he sounded excited saying he had talked to her for 1hr and she is thinking of moving to the area and its making me wary of him.

[Staciel in reply to Crotchet1]

As I understand you like this man and would like to pursue a relationship with him?

[Crotchet1 in reply to Staciel]

Yes that is right.

[anxious_hb]

I feel it has more of an affect the more I have progress in my career. Now I’m head of a team I have so many things to think about and decisions to make and some days I find it hard to focus due to my anxiety. Being anxious all the time then makes me feel down. Sometimes I spend the weekends worrying about work, feeling sorry for myself and crying myself to sleep on Sunday nights. Other times I feel really productive and proud of myself. It can be really up and down.

[Staciel in reply to anxious_hb]

Do you see a therapist?

[anxious_hb in reply to Staciel]

I did CBT a few years ago, but not on meds and not seeing a therapist at the moment.

[Staciel in reply to anxious_hb]

I see. So you manage to cope with it on your own?

I usually feel ok, but as soon as I run in a stressful situation ( usually it's related to people) I get frozen.

Just thinking when it will come to the end.

[anxious_hb in reply to Staciel]

In the past I have managed it on my own. I did Yoga, mindfulness etc, but to be honest I’m in a bit of a rut at the moment and thinking of reaching out for help again as I feel I need to get back on track.

[Staciel in reply to anxious_hb]

I understand you so well.

I always tried to do everything on my own, but I feel that I am loosing grip of my life with each, even the trivial situation in my life.

[anxious_hb in reply to Staciel]

I totally understand. The most annoying thing for me is that sometimes I know it’s trivial and that I’m overreacting, but I can’t stop my brain going into overdrive!

[chinaandback]

When I was suffering from anxiety and panic attacks, I was working full-time and taking classes. I tried not to let it affect those, but when it started to is when I sought help. I began seeing a therapist who prescribed and antidepressant and anti anxiety to take as needed. That combination helped me and my symptoms got less and less. I never finished the bottle of anti anxiety meds. I didn't need the therapy sessions after about a year. It's been years since I had a panic attack. I still occasionally get moody and a little anxious, but nothing like before. I also trust in my faith and just try not to let things bother me anymore. I hope you find some coping skills that work for you so that you can experience the same peace.

[Staciel in reply to chinaandback]

Thank you. That is nice to hear you're ok

[Staciel in reply to Staciel]

Do you have other men acquaintances/ friends around you?