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Im useless

I feel like I let everyone I know down. I feel like I'm useless and stupid. Like it would be better for everyone with out me. Im so stressed rn...anxiety has turned my life into a nightmare

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You're are not useless or stupied everyone is worth something in or own unquie way

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You haven’t let anyone down. None of this is your fault. It would, in no way, be better for anyone without you. There are people who care about you, whether it be in your life, or here, or both. You are not useless. We all have a role to play. And yours is Lindsey14’s role. Some people get lucky, you might say. Some people never have to experience the hell that is mental illness. But those ‘lucky’ people never get to appreciate the beauty of life at the end of the tunnel. They don’t find the love that’s hidden, they don’t meet us lovely people here on healthunlocked :) So, although sailing through life might seem desirable, the people who that life don’t know, but truthfully, having life batter you and test you will be an experience that will wisen you. Many people don’t appreciate their body. Fully recovered anorexics learn to after their battle. Many people don’t realise how precious life is. People who’ve experienced a love one’s death, or someone who’s a recovered suicide survivor, will learn that. Is this making any sense? No? Okay.

My point is, you ARE valuable. We all love you to bits. It is NOT your fault you have anxiety. You’ve not let a single person down. You may feel like you have, but you haven’t even let yourself down. In fact, you should be proud for making it. For being alive today. For being alive every single day you’ve ever been alive.

Please tell someone about this. They can help you. If they say, ‘go home and meditate’, persist or find another doctor. But you need help. And that’s not your fault. We all need a helping hand sometimes, and it’s not a bad thing. It’s a brave thing to do, but I believe in you. I know you can do this.

If you ever feel like you’re going to take your life for sure, and won’t be able to stop yourself, call 999 or 911 etc. If it’s not as urgent, call 111 for NHS advice. If it gets really bad, go to the ER/A&E etc.

I really care about you.

-sliverofsilver

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So sorry how late I am responding,but seriously thank you very much

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I’m very sorry to hear you’re feeling this way. I totally agree with the previous comment...please remember you are not alone. Let me add as well that...this feeling of being a let down or useless is FALSE! It is tiredness mixed with anxiety and you are none of those things that you cited in your post. There’s so much love in this world and I am sure people in your life love you and don’t think of you negatively. But please do seek help and once it passes, you’ll see how important you are for people in your life. I promise you that xx

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Thank you very much, seriously thank you

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Please do not thank me. Instead please go and give a hug and a kiss to someone in your life. Tell them you love them. Or, simply hold their hand and remind yourself that you aren’t alone. I do that when I am having similar feelings about myself. I go to my partner. Give him a hug. Kiss him. And just focus on the fact that I want to be with him. I also do that to my friends (minus kissing of course 😂) and my family. Think of it this way...by doing this...you will make them feel better/secure/loved...which already means that you are NOT useless. :) xx

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Trust me, you are not useless! Everyone at some point in their life feels this way, but that feeling is a lie. You are needed and people love you!

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I agree with all the others who replied to you. I do not know if you have an eating disorder. You never mentioned it. I do know this. As a severe Anorexic since age 14 now I am 56, I know just how you feel. Anorexia and anxiety go hand and hand. The depression, anxiety, never suicidal though. Low self-esteem, loneliness, and unhappy. I have been there most of my life I never got help with my mental illness, Anorexia, until I was fifty. You get that courage. You reach out to others. I only had suicidal thoughts when I went through my recent year-long divorce. Even during my journey to recovery. I was looking for a way out. That divorce was horrible. I made it. I am alive and well. I have recovered from my lifelong eating disorder. You seek help. Life is precious. We only get one shot at it. I mean this. Life is not perfect for anyone. Life is not easy for most of us. Those who have no worries have no idea what some of us struggle with. Like the others that replied. Those who experience some of the worst in life are the most loving and caring people. I am like that. The reason is I had that illness. I went through childhood rape. I watched my loving dearest mother suffer by the hands of my father, my abuser as well. I had become mentally ill at fourteen do to all the abuse. I have been in treatment for six yrs. come Jan. 2019. I am no longer a victim of mental illness or rape. Honey, I am a survivor of both. I have won the freaking battle from Anorexia. Suicide, like others, have said. Is not the answer. I know many young people who can't handle life and they take their lives. I personally knew them. I know the parents of those young people. I see how it affected the parent. I know this, suicide IS A FAR WORSE way to die than any other death. It is the loved ones we leave behind who suffer. They would always question themselves. What could I have said or done to prevent this horrible thing? It is those you leave behind that suffer. DO NOT EVEN THINK OF THIS. YOU WILL DESTROY SO MANY WHO YOU LOVE. YOU THINK OF THEM AS WELL AS FOR YOURSELF. I made a saying and share with many. "The beauty of a flowing stream of water in a creek or pond is visible to the human eye. As humans, true beauty is within." You are beautiful. You have a support team here to help with your struggles. Life is wonderful. You deserve to be happy and free from anxiety or depression. Please ask for help from professionals. You take care. Reach out to others. Share your feelings and thoughts. Do not suffer alone. I know all too well. I too have been there. I love you. You deserve freedom. LIVE AND ENJOY THE MOST PRECIOUS THING-LIFE.

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I am so sorry for what you went through, thank you for thanking the time to respond with all of that. It means a lit

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Anxiety is a nightmare. But, I have found that God can use it for His glory. I, too, was so ashamed and felt like it was my fault. Try to look for ways that it can be used for good. I agree, our feelings tend to lie to us, especially during anxiety and depression. Please know you are loved and were created for a purpose!

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