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Striving

Faced a fear today .. was totally convinced I was surely going to die on my 4 hour drive this morning after all these horrid feelings . When I’m distracted the bad thoughts leave and I feel like a Normal human being again . I’m starting to see straight through these feelings and thoughts . Sometimes my mind goes back and is like well what if people DO know when they’re gonna die .. I shut it down . Hoping to see things keep getting better !! 🙃

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👏👏👏 The only thing i would say is dont try to shut down those feelings or stop them coming. Let them come, watch them come and then do nothing except watch them go. Taking a passive approach to anxious thoughts and feelings tells your brain that there is no threat and stops making you feel anxious. Its not the driving you fear, its the feelings you might get if you go driving. You are afraid of the feelings of fear. If driving was so scary, we'd all be walking and leaving the car at home. Learn to cope with the feelings by accepting them and you can go anywhere and as far as you like. Sounds like you did that today! Keep it up! You've got this.

Thank you . It’s hard to accept the thoughts because if I do I feel like I’m accepting death is coming soon ☹️ But I’m trying my damned hardest

Sometimes, I get fearful thoughts so intense that I shake. At first, it's hard to just see them for what they are. Thoughts, and only that...thoughts. It takes practice to recognize that they come and go and that they can't harm you. We spend a lot of time terrorizing ourselves with our thoughts. And what is the end result? A whole lot of fear and nothing else.

Keep practicing looking at the thoughts in as a detached way as possible. This takes time and practice, but you can do it. They won't scare you so badly as time passes. Look at your bad thoughts and say, "I know you are trying to scare me, but I have other things to do now." I hope you find relief over time. And don't worry when they come back. Just acknowledge that they are there, and continue to do whatever you need to do.

Me too , I isolate myself from everyone . Thanks for your reply and advice

Also, if it helps, try to learn and practice mindfullness meditations. I use an app called Insight Timer. Also there are podcasts that are nice to listen to. I listen to a podcast called Mindfullness+ by Thomas McConkie. It helps me.

Thankyou I will try it out !!

hey I tried to face a fear last week but I failed and looked stupid and ended up having my little boy cry and I felt really guilty.weird how it happened I never ever used to be scared of heights ive climbed many a mountain done a few dodgy abseils high sea cliff traversing but after an accident I somehow became scared of heights.this bridge 150 feet high ive walked over hundreds of times before but just after getting on it I froze I was petrified and couldn't walk.i ended up in the cycle lane walking and couldn't bare looking left or right.i had to stop not even half way across and turn back and my little boy was devastated he was enjoying it so much.anxiety at its worst I guess.glad you faced your fear and came through it.

Thankyou , you can do it too! It just takes time and effort. I’m wishing you the best

maybe one day I will do it again.took the wrath of my sons disappointment for the next hour or so mind you.