A total failure!

[proacct58]

I am 60 years old, and I have destroyed my life. I don't feel like that I can go on much longer.

[Bird-67]

Hello,

Do you want to explain a bit further why you think you have destroyed your life?

Sometimes depression makes you think like that.

I am a bit older than you and know from experience how anxiety and depression feels so if you want to private message me I will get back to you.

[proacct58 in reply to Bird-67]

I am drunk already. I drink to calm my anxiety. I lost my job due to missing days due to drinking.

How do I beat this?

[jurnee33 in reply to proacct58]

I would ask you to stop.. If you have grandchildren , be there for them, if not , just be here.. the world is worth living... I am feeling a bit down lately but I know there will be light... I lost my grandparents almost 4 years ago due to drinking and I was extremely close with my grandma... to this day I cry for her... but I know she is with me.. my brother is able to see her but she has only shown herself when my mom almost lost her life giving birth and another time she showed was when my mom had an ectopic pregnancy almost a year after my grandma passed. she was beside her in the hospital... I know its hard to do , but she didn't realize she wanted to change until that last time , but it was too late . So please... you can turn your life around... it will take support , we were her support, we are what kept her going.. until she would get on her own. Something to look forward too kept her going.. Just find something that keeps you going. My grandma would be about 62 right now .. im now 20.. I was 16 when she died . she died my last week of my 11th grade year in school. Id do ANYTHING to bring my grandma back... I lost a part of me when she died.. part of my joy and happiness I had when I was a child.. I have a great family so my life is great aside from issues within my self. But its not worth it is all im trying to say , im no professional and I cant speak to you like I am one, but I have knowledge and a HUGE heart that I feel some peoples pains tho I cannot actually understand fully.

[Bird-67 in reply to proacct58]

Oh bless you, I do feel for you as I lost 2 brothers because of alcohol.

Please get help ASAP as your life IS really worth living.

If you feel you can’t at the moment then please keep posting on here as there are so many lovely people on this site who will be happy to listen ( me included )

Lots and lots of good wishes to you ❤️

[Gidget1]

What’s going on? (I’m 58)

[minskore]

Anxiety and depression can sometimes lie to you, it’s been telling me that my life is horrible and falling apart but the reality is there is nothing wrong in my life, but my head believes otherwise.

[Hopeless100]

If you have got to 60 years age, you have managed to exceed the life-span of most, so you must be doing something right. It appears nowadays that we see others doing what we want and consider ourselves failures based on that observation and the expectations we had/have. The human condition is always a tragedy, or ends up pretty well one , even for those who you might be comparing yourself with. The triumph comes from making your way in it, no matter what others may think. Instead,, think about what you have managed to do so far, (also 60 is not that old nowadays, you are not perhaps going to compete with younger ones, (who would?, but what do you want to do?) . Who cares what other people think? :RF.

Since today is the first day of the rest of your life, it can be made slightly better than yesterday, one day at a time. (with relapses) The only way I have seen others stop drinking is to stop drinking, none, ziltch.

Anxiety, the ruminations of the mind, I find worst in the small hours of the morning (when I can do nothing about the issues anyway!), so I transfer my thoughts to constructing something I could, but probably not actually do, like planning a house, repairing an engine, making some furniture, anything , Fairly quickly, this distracts, though I have to be careful not to relapse, may have to do this several time a night to be able to relax enough to sleep. Sounds trivial but it might help, too much reality of your position is not what you really want to think about when recovering.

[Woman4GOD247]

Hi,

No matter what you think, you are not a total failure! Times can be tough, but you can get through it.

Have you considered rehab for the alcoholism? Or having a sponsor-type person to help you when you get the urge to drink? Remember, people are here for you and want to see you succeed and be happy! Don’t give up!

GOD BLESS!

-Miranda

[SirGrits]

Hey proacct58 hang in there. There already good comments here. I just encourage you to persevere. Maybe forgive yourself and then enjoy the first day of the rest of your life.