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Pushing people away


I feel like I am so worried that people won’t/don’t like me so I try to avoid them. I’m going through a stressful time right now in my mind and I keep over analyzing my relationship with my boyfriend and I keep getting mad over the smallest stuff and crying over everything. I get so mad when he disagrees with me or does things that I don’t want him to do. He tells he’s not a robot and I know he’s right. Whenever I’m feeling anxious or sad about my relationship, my first instinct is to think “maybe he’s not the one and I just need to leave him before he gets sick of me and leaves me” but I know I would be sooo upset if he left me and I know logically he has done so much for me and has been there so much for me. I just want us to be able to be happy and I don’t want to be dramatic over nothing. I don’t want him to get sick of me and leave me.

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I'm sorry that you are feeling anxious about your boyfriend. Communication is very important, so it helps to talk when you are aware of any differences between the two of you. Have you told him that you are going through a stressful time? Sometimes you have to speak very directly to men. Try not to think so far into the future, but use your five senses to appreciate the present moment.

I'm sorry to hear that you're going through a stressful time right now. I could relate to you about over analyzing things. The best thing that works for me is to be verbal about it to my husband. Hearing it said out loud helps me to see that it is mostly exaggerated in my mind and sometimes a little silly to be worrying about.


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