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I’m so scared to leave my house. I’m so scared that I will either have a panic attack or get sick and that everyone will watch. Just the thought of leaving alone scares me so much. Please help me

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NewUserx

Same!

I have only had anxiety for 5 month and it has really changed my life.

I used to enjoy going out but now it’s like a stressful thing to do because I always worry about having a attack.

I haven’t been out on my own since my first attack and it’s horrible:(

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Lostjoy

I have anxiety also but so far I haven’t been afraid to leave my house. I do have a hard time getting up and around. No motivation at all.

Do you take any meds to help with your fear?

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Dignacio in reply to Lostjoy

No, I have panicks attack before and avoid taking any meds my doctors giving me cause I don't want to get addicted to any kinds of meds. I tried so many techniques such as listening to music when I go to bed, avoid any types of diet drinks, sugar that has no calories, most importantly drink 8 glass of water to alkanalize your body. I learned that from school. The more you alkanalize your body the more you can avoid any types of sickness. Cbc test needs to be done if it experiencing head dizziness nauseated or fainting 😂.'Good luck

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nmp1

I say take baby steps I know it's hard sometimes it's hard for me to even go get the mail. Sometimes you just have to give yourself a little push. Start by going to the closest store to get something. And you can always turn back if you can't make it, at least you know you made it half way. And try deep breathing

Take care

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Jeff1943

Rehberger, the reason you feel uncomfortable going out is because your anxiety is trying to protect you. It thinks that the fear you feel is because there are dangers if you leave home so it's trying to make you stay home in your safety zone.

Thanks, Anxiety, but you're actually not helping by making people prisoners in their own homes.

What you have to do is stop fighting that feeling of anxiety, fighting only creates more tension and stress. Agree to accept or co-exist with your anxiety for the moment and go take a walk to a park or supermarket. But not one that's just nearby so you can run home when the panic comes.

You want the anxiety to come so you can practice accepting it calmly and without turning that first flash of fear into second fear. So when the panic feeling comes just keep going, imagine yourself floating along on a cloud, but keep going. And whilst you're walking keep practicing Acceptance, don't keep hoping the bad feelings will go away, you want them to stay so you can prove to yourself THAT YOU CAN WALK TO THE PARK OR THE SUPERMARKET WHETHER YOU FEEL PANICKY OR NOT.

So once you've demonstrated that you can leave home regardless of that uncomfortable feeling you feel less fear, you produce less fear hormone, you stop fueling your over sensitised nervous system with fear and it begins to recover and so do you.

Whilst you walk along say: "Anxiety, you're days of bullying me are over! If I want to walk to the store for some chocolate you're not gonna stop me. I'm giving you notice to quit, Anxiety, so clear off! I know your little game, how you work. You can make me feel bad, so what! But you can't make me stay home any more. So you're on the way out!"

Say things like that as you head for the store, I mean say them in your mind, not out loud or they'll really think you're cuckoo!😄

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hannab58

I find that when I talk to God, really asking him to be there, he is.

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Dignacio

Hi, Rehberger, sorry to hear that. You know what? Nothing can stop you living your life, even that panick attack your experiencing. I have the same problem like you do but I have to continue life and ignore that feeling. Yes,,, IGNORE IT!!! The more you worried the more the panick attack will kick in! Always remember that it's coming from our thoughts(mind). I am telling you this cause I am experiencing fainting every time I drive but, anxiety won't stop me from driving cause I know I believe I can fight and pass this . Don't give up , make yourself busy and stop thingking or worrying when this feeling going to come. That is the only way you can get out from that panick attack. And always drink 8 glass of milk not including any types of liquid. So you can avoid panick attacks.

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Dignacio

Sorry my bad, I meant 8 glass of water 😃

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Wyominganxiety

I know exactly how you feel agoraphobia is an aweful thing I've been dealing with it for 6 yrs with the help of my meds in just now starting to be able to do little bits . It took me a very long time just to get enough courage to go to the doc to get help.

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Agora1

Hi Rehberger: I earned my name Agora1 because of having been kept prisoner (as Jeff1943 called it) in my own home for 5 years. Five years that I will never get back. Hiding in the house, not talking with people even on the phone. Running and hiding if the doorbell rang. What happened to me? (The People Person) I was about to pick apart every last detail on how Anxiety had led to Agoraphobia and beat it.

What was outside my door that made me fear life, fear living, fear seeing another human being? It was the thoughts that anxiety was giving me. The more I feared, the more control it took from me until I was nothing but a puppet. Having anxiety pulling at the strings to make me move, think and say. Through immense amounts of therapy (by phone) and the belief in myself that I would and could overcome anxiety, I did. Dr. Claire Weekes theory on Acceptance was the foundation for my clearer way of thinking, the rest was done through patience and trust in myself that there was nothing outside the front door except the thoughts in my mind. Those thoughts were with me whether I was inside or out, so why keep myself trapped.

Rehberger, little steps at a time, praising yourself everytime you went forward, no matter how small. Reinforcement has a lot of power to get people to keep moving in the right direction. Never feeding yourself negative info. Getting rid of all the negative words changing them to positive ones. I can't became, I could. I won't became I will. When took over the word, if. I really believe these positives were my stepping stones to healing and once again regaining control of my life.

After all what was Anxiety but a negative thought, thoughts can be deleted through accepting that they are that and nothing more sinister. My best to you, please use the forum wecare. We will guide you and support you. xx

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hippieebbbz09

I’ve been the same way. Sometimes I get tempted to stay indoors but a nice walk on a sunny day does wonders. Try to at least do that. I try not to worry about other ppl , even when I have an anxiety attack go on. It is uncomfortable yes , but it happens you know. Don’t isolate yourself indoors 24/7 🙊 :/ I totally relate to you though. Try to walk in a park nearby or around your neighborhood at least once daily . Try that and see if it’ll make you more happy .

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