I get seriously stressed and anxiety ridden if I have to stand up for myself or if I'm invited somewhere and I want to say no. Instead of saying no thank you, most times I will accept just to cancel last minute and the whole time after I accept the invitation I'm focused on how to get out of it. Also, if I have to assert myself at work I find it very difficult. I haven't been an effective parent either as I only want to please and make happy instead of being the man and providing discipline and commanding respect. I do provide unconditional love and financial support but I'm weak and most likely pathetic. Okay there are other good things about me I'm just listing the really bad ones and I know they are really bad. I also just try to please everybody afraid people won't like me and if I say the wrong thing I'm mortified and dwell on it even knowing the person forgot it a second after I said it.