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I've been through a clinical depression a few years ago to know that's not it, but all I need lately is a little push or a trigger and here I go again.. (the worst thing is when someone asks me "how have you been?") maybe I'm just so exhausted.. on one hand it's good to let it all out, but then again my eyes look like two baked potatoes by now

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Hi hnna, I hear you. I cried at the drop of a hat for 5 years straight. Not depressed but overwhelmed with anxiety at that time. There is a neurological disorder that can make people either cry or laugh inappropriately. But it wasn't that. It was what I believe in losing control of my life and my emotions. Everything was buried so deep. Time and therapy healed me slowly. Do not give up. That question "how have you been?" is a trigger for the tears. Try putting on a happy face and saying "I'm fine" and leave it at that. If you say much more, the tears will open like a flood gate. Allow some time when at home to let go and allow your feelings to surface. Once or twice a day for a limited time. Then fake it, til you make it with a smile. Look in the mirror and smile at yourself. Seeing a happy person looking back at you can do wonders. You aren't alone hnna, it happens to the best of us. :) xx

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hnna in reply to Agora1

Thank you so much, dear. During my darkest hours I always find my way back here and it really does make me feel better to know that first of all I'm not alone and thanks to that get some kind of confirmation that it is possible to get through this. I'm living alone currently and far away from my family so this community here is really all I have at times and it helps me so much to know I'm not completely "losing it". It's my third and final Bachelor's degree year in university, I'm studying finance, so it really shows that it is possible to be quite "high functioning" no matter how hard it is and how some mornings I'm literally forcing myself to get out of my apartment and go to lectures. If I don't go it makes me feel even worse.

I have a ton of guilt on my mind and I don't know how to live with it. I guess that's what's making me cry - I don't know how to forgive myself and I can't even talk about it.

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hnna, I give you so much credit in going for a goal in your life. I believe in keeping both your mind and body active with your studies does help now and of course with your future.

In order to heal you do know that we can't sweep things under the carpet. Issues need to be addressed or they fester within us and come out as anxiety. Whatever it is that is eating away at you will come out when you are ready to talk with a professional. We are all human and have our faults but forgiving ourselves is imperative in getting well.

You are never alone hnna, we are together as a community, a family. Look no further when you need a friend. We will be here. xx

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