Anxiety in a relationship

[tiffany1979]

So I was in a bad marriage where my ex cheated on me all the time and verbally abused me I am now engaged to an amazing guy but a lot of my anxiety issues affect our relationship. I know some of the things he does sometimes triggers my anxiety but I have a really hard time trusting and believing he's really doing what he says he doing or going where he says he's going. No matter what meds I'm on it's does not seem to help. I have been divorced 4 years now and the fear is still there that the same thing will happen. I just need someone to talk to.

[Jeff1943]

Your present guy is not your ex-husband, he is a different person, you must not let your previous way of thinking about your ex ruin your new relationship, you must distinguish between the two people. You have to learn to trust again, do that and all will be well.

[Annie1936 in reply to Jeff1943]

This is a tough one. I can't give advice because the same thing happened to me when I was 30, and I became very skeptical and distrusted anyone I was dating. It ruined any relationship I might have had. Never married again. So my only advice is to talk to a counselor, hopefully a Christian counselor and pour out your heart and build your self esteem. You are worth a good man.