Should I consult my GP?

[Pinky0]

I know that my life will not change unless I do something about it myself. My family are just there but not physically there actually helping me to progress with my own life. My older sisters are independent and have families/ marriage. I've stated in my previous (first post) here that I stay with my parents, they are both in their 60s and more health issues are creeping up on them. I am 30 but they have never properly encouraged me to socially improve myself. Only by my mother comparing me to our family friends' daughters. Which as you can imagine is huge pressure on me and my confidence. A while ago I wanted to meet up with a college friend who I hadn't seen since. We arranged it and I just casually told my mum about it thinking its fine. But no, all the accusations came out and she cried about it too. She has always thought that I was up to something or I would meet someone from online...me - I'm 30 so I'm pretty clued up about the dangers. Alot of us use our phones alot these days but that doesn't necessarily mean we are chatting to strangers! She doesn't trust me at all. My older sister did bad things in the past and I am sure that is why I am paying for HER mitakes now. My mom even told my other sister that I put makeup on and buy clothes because she thinks I see someone! Apparently I can't even do those things without being judged. I've noticed that my social skills have dived as years passed. I have symptoms of depression and it's just going to get worse as I have no support. I volunteer which helps me a bit in public situations. But, I feel and to other people probably seem like a zombie-like as I am a bit quiet compared to the rest of my work mates. It's a tough thing to be going through. So I wonder if my GP would really be able to help as I am scared to go.

[Justin21]

You should go . Just tell them how you feel . They'll probably refer you to a psychologist who will pinpoint what your explaining . Everyone needs help here and there . Regardless of the situation . I know all about depression and anxiety and the problems they bring with them . Feel free to message me if you need someone to talk too . My advice is see someone that will help you make steps in the right path . Don't let someone tell you your crazy , find someone that will help you .

[Pinky0 in reply to Justin21]

Thanks Justin for your comment. 🙂 My issues, and also depression unfortunately are not understood or taken seriously in my family. That's why it's so hard for me to deal with it. My parents are not a VERY strict but, as I mentioned they probably have trust issues. My family/ my parents mean so much to me, but I would also like to be with people on the outside to. I and definitely considering seeing the doctor. I hope I will eventually do it.

[blackcat64013 in reply to Pinky0]

Hi Pinky23,

Hesitate no longer. You need to break the cycle of feeling so down for your sake.

You GP will have the time to really listen to what you are saying. Maybe book a longer than usual appointment to allow for covering key points. Taking a print out this blog is good idea. It seems to cover the key ideas.

Once you have seen the doctor a few times, maybe you can take your mother with you for a "family chat". Depending on your location you can probably find some online resources aimed at carers of family members with mental illnesses and tips for starting difficult conversations about mental health.

I am in Australia and can highly recommend the BeyondBlue website as a starting point

beyondblue.org.au/home