Want to feel beautiful

[wwesydney]

Im so sick of this, I can't help but hate the way I look, i was just crying because I thought every part of me was ugly, some people in life aren't helping me feel better about myself either, my older and younger sister both comment on my appearance, they say I'm ugly, and my hair is too. My hair gets commented on so much, I have thick hair that gets really big, a lot of people compliment it and say there jealous, but my younger sister thinks it's sooo ugly, since she has flat thick/ think hair, shes like "how do people think it's beautiful?" I have a very low self of steam, one time I got in an argument with my friend, I was talking about my depression with her, I asked her "why don't you ever ask me how I'm feeling, do you not care about me?" Or something like that, and she replied, "I always ask if your ok, especially when I see a physical change, I mean look at you!" It hurt me so bad, I wish I could be pretty, people tell me I'm beautiful, but I just don't see it. 😕

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Usually when someone puts another person down it is out of jealousy.

[Anxiouspony12]

Thick hair is the best I have thick hair and you can have layered cute haircuts and they work and we can have bangs that are thick and sit nice!😊Not wispy little efforts! They are jealous of your lovely hair that won't thin like theirs will when they get older! 🤑And layers work on the big hair as thins it out. Getting the right haircut works wonders. I stick with what suits me.

[LottieDottie818]

I feel like that sometimes too. I'll look in the mirror and just get bummed out, but then other days I'm like ok this is the way I look and I have to make it work. My biggest problem is my nose. I think it's too big and I've had people make fun of it before. You just have to own up to it. Be like, "this is me and it is beautiful" I think confidence is what helps bring out beauty. It's most definitely easier said than done. It might come easier with age. I know when I was younger I cared more about what other people thought and felt worse about my appearance. People will always be mean, you have to look out for yourself and love the way you look no matter what anyone else says. There will be many more people who think you are beautiful but don't leave it up to them to tell you. Feel it for yourself

[cinnamonapple89]

There is no universal truth to if something is ugly or not. Nothing makes what your eyes see more or less than what my eyes see. I really don't understand why "styles" and opinions on people's looks came from. There is no right or wrong about whether something is ugly or not. Everyone is beautiful because we are a blessing, we are a PART of the universe. You are beautiful, because you are alive. Look at yourself differently in the mirror tonight.

[HearYou]

Dear wwesydney,

Don't know how old your sisters are or how old you are. But I think sometimes a girl goes through a time where she thinks she isn't pretty just because she is different a little from the other girls. Let me tell you the good news you had to share with us today.

First, often a girl or woman never sees in the mirror the person other people see. (We are too hard on ourselves).

Second, You are a little different than everyone else. So, your personality may become very interesting.

Third, you have hair that is noticed, which means when you want to be noticed, you will be. Did you ever see the photos of the young Sophia Loren? She thought she was an ugly, skinny legged girl.

Call several hair salons and ask for an appointment just to get ideas how they think you can style your hair to be "hot". Let them know ahead, you are wanting ideas first, and not to cut or do anything to your hair. I wonder how many will tell you not to cut it, but will show you how to work with it.

My hair was thick, black, long and frizzy and I had no idea what to do with it when I was young...my sisters all had great straight blonde hair. I saved my money and went to a salon and asked what could be done to help me. It was amazing how little had to be done for me to feel beautiful with my hair. (My hair required rollers, when everyone else used blow dryers....most people had never even remembered using hair rollers)

So, thank you for sharing the good news you had but didn't know it.

[Agora1]

Hi wwesydney, I think most girls go through this stage in their life when they wish they could have hair, skin and personality like the popular girls at school. It was like that for me at your age. I too didn't like my thick curly hair that would frizz on those humid days. I was shy, introverted but a good student. My friends were the goody 2 shoes girls..I felt like I didn't exist at times. Sound familiar?? And then something happened when I got out of school and started working. My self esteem grew, I started to like myself for who I was because of the positive feedback of others. And remember that frizzy hair that I hated? Well it became my crowning glory. It's what people remember about me, my hair. As I got more self confident, it attracted people that I wouldn't have before. The shy, introverted teen had blossomed into a young woman. And this will happen for you as well. I wouldn't be surprised if after a while, it's you that will far outshine your sisters. You see, beauty comes from within. If you feel beautiful inside, it will show in your smile as well as how your eyes will sparkle. Be patient dear, good things take time. x

[Anxiouspony12]

Id like to add I'm going with what suits me I can't ever be the bleach blonde tanned mainstream stereotype. So I now accept myself as dark haired, pale emo gothic scene alternative And I am into tattoos to enhance myself in my way. There's different kinds of beauty it doesn't have to conform to mainstream all the time. I laugh when I see people who aren't alternative wearing the clothes cos they are trendy. The kind of people who bully will copy the style I find if it's trendy. I am a designer starting out so actually do know alot about beauty and fashion. Find your thing and own it. Be yourself be unique. cos why be somebody else when you can be yourself?! 😊And I sing death metal and I don't conform to that image either and I don't care!😊I used to get upset til I realised those people hate me my friends and things and people I care about so they often aren't nice people are they? I'd rather be with nice people than nasty ones wouldn't you? 😊

[mysmugcat in reply to Anxiouspony12]

Lovely post, good for you.

[Agora1 in reply to Anxiouspony12]

Anxiouspony12, I totally agree with you. I couldn't care less what's in style eventually it all comes around again. I dress for me. I dress and look like me, if someone doesn't like it that's their problem. Don't change me, I'm happy with who I am. Thank you for sharing your sentiments on accepting ourselves. There are a lot of nice people in this world and we have the option to pick and choose our friends. Be well x