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I can't handle this anymore.

I don't know what's real anymore. I feel so alone, so frustrated with life. I want to disappear and not feel. I don't understand why my life is so hard for me. I find zero pleasure in life. I feel so alone and afraid. I try so hard, And get absolutely no where. Stuck in the same spot. What's the point now...no one is coming to rescue me...ever. Can't do it alone, now what? I'm so overwhelmed I don't even wake up with any peace...I want out of my misery.

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I hear you.

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I feel your pain. THIS will pass. There are people who care about you.

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Please dont do anything silly

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If your having anxiety,please take deep breaths in and out.

What are you feeling now?

Can u go for a walk or neditate?

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Staystrong: How are you doing right now? There are people who need you on this list. Right now,new people want to hear your experience and need your help.Maybe that will make you feel better. I promise,this anxiety will pass.I know how you feel. I have been there myself.Down and out. Unhappy and nothing to live for. Maybe you should go to the ER right now to get some help.

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I'm sorry your going through this. :( I know how you feel. I deal with this feeling almost everyday. Anxiety sucks. We all know this. You need to accept the new you with anxiety & over come this! :) please. I know it's easier said then done. I almost live day by day now but I also just enjoy life in the moment! I learned to accept this anxiety & roll with the punches! It has helped a lot. Please try & enjoy life as much as you can! Don't let this overcome you! Be stronger then it! ❤ it will pass. Your here today aren't you? Know that anxiety is not gonna kill you! Please pray & let God know you need him. ☺ he will be there.

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No one will rescue you but yourself. You're stronger than you think. It will pass, I promise. It's hard to to change your thinking and perception of life BUT it can be done! Baby steps. When you wake up, make an effort to think positive and set the tone for the day. I look in the mirror and tell myself over and over I'm OK and I will get thru this! Affirmations daily! I drive and yell, I love myself! I love my life! I am okay!' I am strong! You're not alone and many of us are struggling with you BUT we can change it. Again, YOU have the power! Love, energy, strength and peace!

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Love this response! 100% right on! ❤

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This disorder does suck a lot we need to overcome it and beat it,I know it's not that easy I had my worst day because of it yesterday but we have to stay positive minded on our worst days just keep trying

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Hi! I feel your pain. I want to recommend to you some things that have really helped me, although I still suffer from anxiety.

1. Buy the book DARE The new was to end anxiety and panic attacks. This book helped me so much.

2. Change your diet if you havn't already. No breads/ sugars. lots of veggies and fish and fruits and chicken.

3. Got o anxietyexit.com and look at all the top options of supplements. Like chamomlie tea and gaba!

I hope something helps. Just remember you are not alone. SO many of us are suffering from this.

You mentioned "I don't know what's real anymore." Is this a feeling of depersonalization? Because that is what I am struggling with really bad right now. Not feeling in my body and feeling like everything around me is a dream. I feel like I am on drugs :(.

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Fantastic reply Marie I too have recommended the DARE book to Stay Strong I've found it amazing

All your tips are great

Love Cat x

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Thank you very much. I am definitely looking into supplements now, and the book. And yes I don't feel real sometimes. It is hard to explain.

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Please don't do anything dangerous. I know exactly how you feel and not too long ago I had my suicide planned out but I swear to god it gets better. It's gonna be okay, no matter how impossible that may be to believe, please just try. I highly recommend listening to your favourite songs as loud as you want, try reading a good book or watching a good show (something to look forward to). Giving yourself something to look forward to is VITAL when you feel this way because when you have nothing to live for, the smallest thing could be everything. When it comes down to the daily tasks that seem impossible to complete it's about discipline before motivation. You HAVE to do those little important things no matter how much you don't want to and afterwards you can reward yourself and you don't have to worry about it anymore. What is equally as important is making time for people in your life. CALL that family member. INVITE that friend out for lunch next week. Before you know it, you won't be barely making it through the days you'll be looking forward to you tomorrows.

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Staystrong: How are you doing? I am very concerned about you. CAN u pls. Let us know how you are doing?

Sky

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Stay_strong85, Oh how I wanted to disappear or run away but to where? What difference did anything make in life, Everyone else seemed to be going on with their life and there I was Stuck.. Didn't even have the strength or courage to try to take a baby step. Loneliness was overwhelming. Waking up each morning was "anxiety" to greet me. Somehow with all of these feelings, I just knew that one day I would come out of this nightmare. I had tried meds, therapy and everything else that was suppose to work. There were times I called my therapist every single day crying hysterically that I was scared, so scared. I didn't know what I was scared of which I felt made it impossible to overcome. How can you work on an invisible fear? Having Agoraphobia for 5 years made me go stir crazing and yet I didn't crack. I had no idea just how long this would go on, but I wasn't about to give up. And then, one day I remember this feeling in my brain. Something was different and it was a good different. I knew then, I was heading out of the jungle of fear and into the real world again. It's been 2 years now since that happened. The feeling of joy and freedom from this overpowering bully has taken a back seat. I no longer fear him. I accept the fact that I have won and will continue to win. I will never allow anxiety to take over my life again.

Stay-strong85, it will happen for you. Once you release your fear, anxiety loses interest and slowly fades away. Please believe. My best x

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Please try the DARE book by Barry McDonagh I'm sure it will help you so much

I know you say there is no one to rescue you but sadly there won't be

Don't you give up hope anxiety can be beaten

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Hi there. I understand. Been there. I became suicidal,tried to end it. Felt I was a burden to others. I couldn't function anymore. Well I'm still here,my attempt failed. But I realized I had been selfish,not thinking of my children,or any one else. I would be gone,they would have to live with the pain and horrible memory of it all. It was suggested to me to try and get out of my self absorption by reaching out to others,ect. I'm still not there with that. But you have a lot to offer thru you're experiences. Don't sell yourself short. You are a presious human being.

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I am a suicide survivor, and now I truly realize how wrong a choice I made though, now that I am older.

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You are not alone we are all here.... Take small steps and you may get further than you think. Do not look at it all in one big pile of crap take a piece at a time. Maybe go out for a cup of coffee, a walk, get a pet, find a church, there are ways to get through this it is hard but you can do it.....The journey of 1000 miles begins with one step....take smaller steps and you can conquer the mountain...Sending love and hugs

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I am ok everyone. Just to make it clear I am not feeling suicidal...just very overwhelmed. I will buy the DARE book. Thank you everyone. 💞still struggling but working at it. I DON'T WANT TO QUIT THE GOOD FIGHT. 😢🤕

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Hey Stay Strong

Please remember that fighting just keeps you stuck but acceptance that your suffering is all anxiety and completely harmless will help you win through. Acceptance is not something you do, it is a change in attitude towards those symptoms which I have posted previously. Just allow it all to wash over you. Be an observer to the thoughts and feelings and don't get involved. Let them come, let them do their worst. It is only anxiety playing tricks so font be conned by them, don't give them the respect they crave. Show them no respect whatsoever because they won't be there when you recover.

To recover, read up on how anxiety manifests itself. If you learn about it, it takes away a lot of the fear which is the only thing keeping it going. Remove th fear and the symptoms will fade away.

Regards

Beevee

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My mind and body won't give me a break so I feel very frustrated. But I know that I need to calm myself...and I will. Ugh. Friends, why is this happening to me??? I WANT TO BEAT THIS! 😖

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I know how you feel girl trust me! ❤ I know you don't know me personally but we totally relate on the same subject! You WILL beat this! Have faith in God & HE WILL bring peace to you! Nobody has answers to why this happens to us! It definitely makes me overwhelmed too!, ;( keeping yourself distracted & meditation can help A LOT. When a panic comes on for me, I stay calm, I try to keep my mind distracted with something, pray to God & tell myself I am not going to die! I let my body accept what is happening, I breathe through it with deep breaths, I send a prayer to God & ask him to help me get through this & then it passes. I am able to move on with my Day & Live. ❤ keep talking to yourself & letting yourself know everything is going to be okay! ☺ I believe you can beat this! I am fighting with you to overcome this anxiety! Remember we are stronger then it!

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Thank you...I will keep going. I know God is with us. I was letting the exhaustion and frustration get to me. I'm ok, doing better after reading all your responses, I know your words hold a lot of value and they truly help remind me that I CAN do this! Thanks friends for fighting the good fight along side me.

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For those of us who aren't very religious (if you aren't very religious) and for those like me who are still very spiritual, meditating is everything that you need sometimes. It's important to find a balance in mind body and soul. The more you know yourself, the better you can identify the source of frustration and make it disappear. It can be hard but letting things happen and accepting them is helpful. Understanding your place in the universe is an important things to contemplate and know that you DO have purpose even though it may be hard to find. Maybe God has that answer, maybe you have to find it yourself. This can be a lot to handle when you feel overwhelmed but it can be extremely helpful with being at peace with yourself. Best of luck friend. Never give up and try your best. I hope you find solace.

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I will never give up. I want to find my peace of mind inside of me, and I am determined. You all are amazingly kind and helpful. Thank you.

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You will beat this just take it slowly We are all listening to you and feeling your pain

Small steps you will win x

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Means a lot!! Thank you. Cat, just those few words brought such relief and peace my way. Thanks.

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Please please give the DARE book a go I'm sure you will find some peace in it It has helped me so much its by Barry McDonagh

You take good care x

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Hey i know how you feel let me tell you this when i was at my worst days i felt just like you it was so bad i would try everything to feel better i felt like there was nothing i could do to get better i felt like i couldnt even have a minute of peace or feel relaxed and when people would tell me i been what you been through i didnt believe them i felt like i had it the worst i wouldnt even look foward towards another day i felt so hopeless i had so much symptoms i started thinking i had all sorts of things wrong with me health wise and it got worse i was so confuse didnt know was was going on i would go to the docs alot and would tell me its anxiety i had a hard time aceppting that anxiety can make you feel so horrible there was days where i felt like they were my lasts days let me tell you no matter how hard it feels like it impossible to get better trust me i been there till this day i still have my ups and downs but i do feel better than how i did when it started im still working on getting better doing things too relax and im still trying to readjust my brain to positive thinking because through all that time i did alot of negative thinking and led to depression there were times i thought of suicide because i couldnt take it nomore but i thought of my family i still wonder why and how this all happen it happend out of the blue when i had a really bad panic attack ever since that day i feel like i havent felt normal just keep going take it day by day take it easy dont stress your self suround yourself with positive im still working on it myself i think it takes time too to feel better we all are in this together and to help eachother we just gotta stay positive and hope for better days

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I truly appreciate you taking the time to write all that...sunk in. Thank you for the the hope. 😥🙄😶

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I'm feeling the exact same way! Please stay strong! It will pass. You are never alone.

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Try meditating or meeting up with a close friend or family member, even if you don't open up to them, seeing those you love might brighten your day.

Take care!

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