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Anxiety kicking in again :(

Hey everyone,

I haven't been on here for a while due to being 22 weeks pregnant but feel the need for some advice now more then ever.

It's going to be a bit of an essay but I just need to talk to someone and get it off my chest. Apologies in advance!

I am as said above 22 weeks pregnant with my first child, second pregnancy but first baby. I am over the moon to be having a baby as my first ended in miscarriage early days....I call her my rainbow baby as to me she is so special. I had a really tough time to start with, severe morning sickness and many hospitalised trips...I then developed gastro flu so was hospitalised for that too. During this time my partner wasnt very supportive, he would leave me at home on my own throwing up whilst he went out with his friends and to play sport. As much as I know they need a release I felt completely made me lose a lot of respect for him.

As well as this in a nutshell I basically feel like certain family members are taking over with what I buy, I feel like I can't buy anything for my own baby and that nothing I do will be good enough for anyone. I have texts saying don't buy anything without telling me first, don't buy anymore clothes, don't go getting too much of this and as much as I know everyone is excited and that I probably sound like a really horrible person I feel like I cant do anything and when she is born I won't even get a look in. I appreciate everything people are doing for us but atm i'm finding its getting overwhelming and sending my anxiety to the roof.

A lot of my anxiety atm is towards my partners mum ...My partners mother has a heart of gold but she gets really shitty about a lot of things quickly, she never sees her other grandchild and is always complaining about things......sometimes I feel like she is rubbing me with the same brush if that makes sense, I am always on edge around her and never feel like I can be myself because of things she has said to me about her, in a way I feel like well if she feels like that about her then whats she saying about me and because of this I constantly feel like im doing something wrong and that I have to meet her expectations all the time :( I tell my partner how I feel all the time and he does nothing because of how she is so I feel like he doesnt support me at all there either :(

I'm also finding that my other halfs family are feeling left out because my family have bought certain things which is causing friction between us all now. I don't know how to deal with it all and its making my anxiety come to a pulp again, I have always been one to worry about what others think too so its made it worse :(.

I keep telling myself look youre pregnant. Dont stress because its not good. You can get and say what you want.

I am finding everything so hard and what should be a really exciting time just feels like a competition :(.

This isnt even half of what I could say but thats the main points.

If anyone has any advice it would be really reassuring right now.

3 Replies

Oh boy, a lot going on ,sounds like , well I say this based off what you said , I would not let yourself care to much about what people think about you. In the end this is your baby you are the mother . They will all have to accept the choices you make for your child and yourself. And believe me I have 4 kids and instinct kicks in when you become a mom and your fear of what people think will change. Let who ever get you things for the baby if they want to don't stress about that. As far as your partner he needs to come to terms that he needs to reconsider some of those nights out leaving u home . You need to get some you time relaxation and pampered. . Be selfish if you have to be you deserve it.. everything will be ok just breath and take care of you!


congratulations firstly secondly I think hormones are affected during and after pregnancy its natural I guess just monitor it if you feel its you then go with it if not just remind yourself of what's happening the changes in your body will affect your mind and mood at times. I think awareness is the key. in regards to family and friends and gifts i think its quite natural for them to get carried away and at times seem over the top. understand there excitement is for you and part of you. maybe a list of items could be created and they could then take a pick from the list of what they would like to get.. I think a steady stream of nappies and wipes was always appreciated and baby grows haha. regarding your partner communication is always the key and lack of it causing a divide or thoughts of things that are not actually happening. he may feel he is giving you space he may also be fearful of the situation from previous problems or it may be that he is like quite a few blokes and is unaware of the enormity that the process of developing life within you is and the changes that can occur it your thinking and moods let him know how you feel from the heart and I'm sure he will understand and do his bit happily.

take care


Thanks guys, I do think sometimes maybe I do majorly overthink things but it's getting to a stage where I just feel I'm never going to be free from it all :(. I will get there xx


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