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My son playing up again.

I have done everything for him cleaning his bedroom because if I do not I know it will make him depressed and angry he leaves wet towels on his bed goes out and then will have to sleep on said bed. His bin can be a health hazard if left also. He kicked off because I found a lump hammer in his bed with some other steel object and he didn't like me finding that. We have been getting on and this is the second bitch in say 6 months. So its not to bad but it gets me down because I really do try. I know his mother would not put up with it for one week or he'd be out in a flash. His drug taking has grown but will have to slow down because I am going to start saying no to his daily borrowing of money. So lets see how long our peace lasts.

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I'm sorry about your son may God bless him and hopefully he stops with the drugs

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Oh Dodo, I'm sorry. Having adult children can be quite a challenge for the older parent. How have you been doing physically? It sounds like emotionally you have your hands filled right now. Hope things settle down for you. Take care of yourself.

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We have been keeping apart for a while. I just make sure he is ok from a distance. He hugged me last night and said he loved me and that made me feel so good. We will get there.

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Dodo, you are a better person than I am. I have so had it putting up with my daughter's put downs and yelling at me, throwing things. In her eyes I can't seem to do anything right. As long as this continues, my anxiety will always be in a boiling pot. How much therapy can I have because she won't seek any help? Sorry needed to vent. No one seems to understand what it is like to anticipate this on a daily basis. Take care my friend.

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Sorry to hear about your son. I care for my adult son who has mental health problems. It is never easy but good luck to you.

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Very challenging at times but love conquers all.

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If he`s an adult, then he should be able to take care of himself. In your position I`d kick him out of the house, because you have enough to cope with with out him making things worse.

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If I did that I couldn't live with myself would rather put up with the grief but thanks for input.

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Hello :-)

Sorry to read your post and that at the moment you wrote it you were feeling upset :-(

I think we all have a past and I know I do and I remember I would bend over backwards for my kids and when things were getting out of hand someone said to me to love your kids is not all giving and letting them do what they want but also saying no when you no it might harm them and that is exactly what you did , drugs and I know why you feel he needs them but will cause harm and having the kind of things he had under his bed again potential harm so you were doing what any loving parent would do and saying this is going to far

I know sometimes the guilt we feel because we feel if this and that and the other had not happened or was different then maybe they would not be doing what they are so we try and make up for it and by doing that we can create more problems but believe me no matter what the circumstances have been there is one thing that shines through your posts and that is you have done and you do the best you can as a parent and because we can only ever do the best we can with what we have got then you have nothing at all to feel guilty about or have to compensate for , I think he is a lucky lad to have a Dad like you :-)

Like Agora replied how are you in yourself at the moment ?

Last time you were taking yourself of with a think a book or something to learn something new on the guitar , how did that go ?

I hope you feel a lot better than when you posted :-)

Take Care x

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Thanks Bounce as always you make so much sense and you show so much compassion. I am fine now and my son and I are getting there. Things are much better than they were a few years ago. Take care now. x.

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That is so good to hear :-)

You take really good care of yourself :-) x

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