Hard not to get upset

[Canres]

When I was young, I went through stressful moments and since then, my breathing pattern has changed. It's really hard to explain, how could you not know how to breathe? It's supposed to be so natural. I don't know why, but I just can't breathe. It's like breathing and holding your breath at the same time. When you are having a hard time even just to breathe properly, it's really hard for you to do anything else. I can't focus on work, I can't make friends. And I just can't stop comparing myself with other people, even though I know I shouldn't be doing that. It's like they have everything and I just have got nothing. How to get these negative thoughts out of my head?

[Hidden]

Hello

First I would suggest you try & accept them & accept them for what they are anxiety

There is nothing physically a matter with you but your anxiety which is the mind telling you that there is

When we can accept this , it gives the fear less importance and the less it gets slowly we drop of what we are so focused in on but it can take a while to put this into practice

Have you spoken to your Doctor about this ? Maybe some Counselling or therapy might help which they could refer you for x

[Canres in reply to Hidden]

I talked to a therapist before but I feel like she didn't help much so I stopped. Then I found the social anxiety institute website and subscribed to its audio series.

I always tell myself I have to accept who I am now but I'm still always upset by the fact that things would have been different if I don't have social anxiety.