Work is proving to be very difficult again.

[Peter1]

It happening again.. new job going well but anxiety makes me reserved and disconnected. Eventually colleagues resent me and see me as aloof. I feel really lonely but don't know how to reach out to people and show that I'm a good friendly person. My quietness is caused by my anxiety. Inside I wish I could be normal and join in the banter but I find it really hard.

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Hi Peter

Its been a while since I last saw you post on here & really pleased your new job has been going well

It is a struggle when anxiety gets in the way of allowing us to mix with others & I can imagine that people could see it as we are unsociable rather than seeing we are lovely caring people

Have you ever had any counselling to try & help with this

I always think if someone just smiles at me or I smile at them it makes people come across as friendly maybe if you could start by trying to make sure you say Morning , Hello , & smile as you do & then just build it up slowly till you are interacting more with your colleagues

This wont be the best answer I am sure better ones will follow but just wanted to let you no I had read your post

Keep coming on & talking it does help

Love

whywhy

xxx

[Jeffju]

I think whywhy has an excellent answer. Just start slowly with a 'Morning' and soon it will be more as you gain some confidence and people realise you are not standoffish..

Don't let the anxiety beat you. You managed to get a new job.... must have had confidence to do that.

So, ENJOY and small steps to begin with.

Let us know how it goes, Julie xx

[miahall1]

Hi Peter1, I am male and I sometimes feel the same your not on your own. Ok so your aware of it so you can do something about it. 1. You my naturally be more sensitive person like me, some people just aren't. Mix with similar people and may be look at the work environment that facilitates your personality. 2 Get rid of the negatives in your life a build i life for you you will feel empowered and your self confidence will grow. Just learn to be comfortable in your own skin.

[hairyfairy]

I know exactly how that feels, because as a quiet & reserved person, Iv`e had to deal with loud & ignorant people who see people like us as stuck up, thick, & basically a nasty person. People are so stupid, they never look beyond the surface.