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Recently ive been suffering from stress/anxiety/depression/panic attacks/chest pain/scared to go to bed/help please.

Hi everyone i'm a new boy on here suffering really bad at the moment. My amazing wife posted a blog a few months ago asking for some advise so here we go i thought i would let you guys in on whats been going on. I have just been through the worst 12 months of my life starting with the loss of my legendary father my hero he was & i loved him so much i still can't believe he has gone & it doesn't take a lot for me to get upset even 15 months down the line. I am the type of person that does worry quite a lot i soon get stressed if there is something on my mind i loose sleep & go off my food i've also got a stressful job Its all happened to much all together & i've boiled over just can't take any more. My wife recently having a major operation not knowing if she had cancer or not until after the operation, family betrayal which has really opened my eyes i'm wounded inside don't think i can ever forgive & forget. I felt myself starting to feel unwell chest pains which really freak me out, hot sweats, heart racing as if i was going to have a heart attack. when i closed my eyes at night in bed i got this overwhelming feeling of fright as if i was going to get knocked over by a car would be the best description. I had a couple of nights where the chest pains were so bad we were so close to calling 999. My doctor thinks my symptoms are due to all the stress over the last year building up until now ive boiled over. I get panic attacks where i can't concentrate & have to go somewhere quiet & sit or lie down. I am still undiagnosed as yet i should get diagnosis next week but its looking like stress & anxiety i've recently had a 24hr heart monitor fitted hopefully that will come back clear. Do you guys suffer from chest pains due to stress & anxiety it would feel much better to know 'im not alone. All the best to you hopefully with one another's help we can overcome this horrible condition. littleosca .

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hopefully, someone will be on tomorrow who you can talk to.

can I ask you a favour? and you can say or no.

could you edit your title to say something like

Recently I've felt stress/anxiety/depression/chest pain/scared to go to bed/help please.

- only because it frightened me when I read it and was going to reply "call 999 immediately!"

I can see you'e had a rough time these last 15 months and I hope your tests results are good.

regards,

sandra.

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Hi im so sorry my title caused you discomfort that's the last thing we need especially on this site. Thanks for your comments & all the best. I've changed it for you sandra.

Littleosca.

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thankyou,

sandra.

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You are not alone, when everything gets on top of me, the panic attacks start and half the time I get pain in my chest too. My daughter also suffers from it now and it's frightening to go through. I am glad you have been to the doctors, it take a lot of courage to do that and it's good you are having your heart monitored to rule it out.

You have been through such a bad time and you need to really allow yourself to grieve and not just for your hero, but the worry you must have had about your wife too.

When the pain strikes, I go into a room that's quiet, breath in a paper bag and either play music to calm me or do meditation and breathing techniques myself and my daughter have learnt.

The main thing that helps us it to talk or write about it as it feels it cleanses us from the situation.

Welcome to the site and hope we can help you and you start to get the attacks under control.

All the best to you and your wife hope she is on the road to recovery xx

Louise

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Thanks for your comments Louise it's reassuring to know that other people have had the same symptoms due to this condition. Thank the lord that my wife's tests came back clear & she's healing up nicely now. I was hoping that I would start to feel better now my wife is getting better but i don't think it's that simple once you reached boiling point. Thankyou for the help & advice. X . Littleosca .

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Hi,

I so know what your talking about! Your back story is very similar to mine.

I lost both my parent 5yrs ago within 6 months of each other.At the same time my daughter was diagnosed with tourettes.I had to put all my grief to one side just so i could be strong for my daughter . The symptoms that you are experiencing are very typical of anxiety and panic. I do get that as well and yes it scares the life out of you. TIP.... when you feel this happening lay down some where quite (or sit) relax your body...take a deep breath ...do this a couple of times....next notice how your body is....are your shoulders tense....neck tense..just take the time to really relax...notice your heart beat...try ignore negative thoughts...try to say to your self...negative thoughts are not welcome go away...think of something really nice.Do this for about 30mins until you feel alittle calmer.

What you are doing is excepting that nothing is going to happen...its that ''flight or fight'' feeling...its horrible when it happens and you do think the worse...but trust me '' Mindfulness''is a wonderful thing. It just calms your breathing so you can think straight and cope. You can google ''Mindfulness"" for other tips.

Good Luck my Friend

Hugs

xxx

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Thankyou for your advice I think your right breathing & concentrating on good things may help when I get an attack. Im now realising how powerful the mind is. It's so difficult to control especially when I'm at work as my boss is a bully & not very sympathetic I have to just get on with it & its so hard. I sometimes go outside on my own & take deep breaths to calm down. This site is definitely starting to help me with advice & help off people like yourself.

Thanks so much & all the best to you & your family.

Littleosca.

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Your most welcome.

With regards to your boss,nobody needs to put up with bullying ,at school or in the work place.There is no place for it in our society. Why dont you mention it to your doctor and ask for advice or speak to somebody at work privately. You really don't want to be coping with that on top of every thing else.

Im here if you need to sound off! :]] xxx

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The negative racing mind can produce all sorts of symptoms. It will slow down, and things do pass.........take doctors advice and if it means time out then so be it.......your health comes first at this point............meanwhile I found Eckhart Tolle an inspiration.. in understanding what made us tick....all his books are worth reading and if you cannot concentrate ,his lectures are also on you tube....my thoughts are with you at this difficult time......

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Thanks for your advise I'm determined to get better hopefully my results will be back soon & I will get diagnosed. If im told my heart & lungs are ok I have to then take advise off people like yourself to improve.

Littleosca.

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Your story is also similar to mine - very stressful job in poor lonely working conditions, father passing away, loads of previous job redundancies and a feeling of uncertainty about my job security, heavy mortgage, going self-employed..........ended up with severe anxiety and very bad health anxiety.

That was 20 years ago now and I still suffer badly at times despite counselling back in the late 1990's.

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If your doctor has checked out your chest pains and they are not heart related then you can at least put that worry to bed. I had chest pains for two years linked to bullying boss/stressful job/best friend dying of cancer. Even when the bullying stopped it took 2 years for the chest pains to go away (he was still around and that I think was the trigger). All of this was linked to diagnosed anxiety (which as well as the chest pains included sleeplessness, exhaustion, panic, faintness, upset stomach) all in all a nasty experience and I did take citalopram for nearly a year and have some counselling. I've come out the other side now. I still have anxiety filled moments, but it's not so overwhelming now and when it happens I sit back and take stock of what's causing it and try to sort it out. I don't think I'll ever be free entirely of it, it's just part of my nature, but I try to stop it ruling my life by talking to people when I'm feeling rough. Good luck, it will pass and you will get back to feeling more like your normal self, but make sure you get support of a good counsellor and your doctor. Pay to go private with a counsellor to get seen more quickly if your NHS service is anything like mine was.

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Thankyou for posting your symptoms you had are exactly the same as I'm experiencing now & you got better which means so can I which makes me positive. My boss is also a bully I think he has contributed to my blown fuse more than I know. I am determined to come out the other side just like you have & if that means seeing a councilor so be it.

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There is no quick fix but doing something positive, like counselling- can at least give you back some control and put some good plans in place for coping. This will all help.

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Your mind is over stressed with all that has happened over the last 18 months and has 'blown a fuse' this is how Dr, Tim Cantopher describes what has happened to you in his book. I can relate to this as I lost both my parents last year, within 7 months of each other, and also lost my job. Trying to be strong and do everything and cope was too much for me and my mind. Panic attacks feel just like you are having a heart attack and I know many people who have felt like this, so that is due to your anxiety and stress, I believe. I hope you can get some help soon to relieve you of these feelings.This is a great site , you are not alone and it has helped me through some really tough times. I wish you all the very best. xx

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Thankyou for your advice the more time i spend on this site talking to people like you the more convincing it becomes that my diagnosis will be stress and anxiety. Sorry to hear of your loss you have my deepest sympathy as I know how painful & stressful times like that are. Take care & all the best to you to. Littleosca .

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Some pretty good advice there all round.

Please don't think you will never get any better, YOU WILL. It just takes time. I know, we want it now, but that is the reality. As is often said, one step at a time. You will get there.

First see your GP and go from there onwards and upwards.

Life is testing, but it's a test you'll pass.

Take care xx

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Thanks so much for the reassurance it means a lot to me . This site is so amazing you don't realise how many people are suffering.

Kind Regards. littleoscar

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It seems to me major life events can trigger a bad episode, mine was losing both parents within a year and a job I had for 18 years, having to move house into rented accomodation as we had a neighbour from hell, wayward teenage and oh ye being pregnant. not surprising really. I think it is inherent in your character, my mom had bad anxiety and I also see it in my oldest son. However it has some positive effects too, it can make you get a lot done!

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I totally agree with you that major life events can trigger this when I look back at all that has happened I'm thinking how the heck have I coped with it all & the truth is that I haven't coped that's why Im suffering now. I've been like this for about 3 months now just before my wife went into hospital that was the tipping point..

Thanks for the comments.

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Same here my jobs stressfull to im 20 and lost my mum when i was 16 and since then ive fended for my self also the family thing i had that to just ignore them you have your own family i used to have aniety realy bad but its calmed down still get scary physical symptoms tho keep your head up just remember you only live once and remember our mum and dad wudnt want us to be upset try be happy makes you feel better hoped i helped abit kind regards john

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Thanks john im so sorry you lost your mother at such a young age that must have been terrible & your right I've got my own little family & now the wife's had the all clear we've got everything to live for. My father would want to see me happy again & healthy. I do get my worrying from him my father alway had something to worry about.

All the best to you john.

Littleosca.

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No problem it sounds to me your just a worrying pal have you not had any physical symptoms .? Everyone's famous words are dont worry stop worrying but no matter what you all have it ther at the back of your mind unless your out and about and active so your mind can't think about it I'm on meds now and gettin reay bad side effects but I no I need to man up if I want my life back I used to have and be life of the party as people say keep your head up I no I will try to all the best pal

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Hi john my physical symptoms are chest pains mainly on the left hand side sometimes right hand side. I had excruciating pain left hand side sort of rib cage area at night with a racing pulse this hurt to breath in deeply also hot sweats. I get pain/discomfort in r/h arm & hand mainly lower arm/wrist also right leg but ive also got a long term back injury & im not 100% sure wheather its sciatica I get from that or something else. I feel like a right hypercondriac now pal. Ive alays been a worrier if I'm alone I start thinking about all the crap over the last 15 months there's loads I've not mentioned mate including trying to dry out my alcoholic sister the list goes on & on pal. Thinking about it all no wonder I've gone pop. Im gona beat this im still waiting for my results from the 24hr heart monitor I had last week & when i beat it I'll do my best to try to help you guys on here beat it too. Take care pal.

Littleosca.

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That's what I try and think, that my parents wouldn't want me to be like this. I have a chat to them when I dust their photos every week and in between times too. I am on my 2nd reading of a book by Dr. Tim Cantopher ' Depressive illness The Curse of the Strong. It is a great book, not long, and puts things in perspective for me.How we struggle on dealing with pressures etc that so called 'normal' people wouldn't do. It's a really good read. and I would certainly recommend it. Keep on keeping on and as we say in NZ ' Kia Kaha' ... Be strong. All the very best. xx

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i am fed up with not having any sleep even with all the medication i am taking

for pain dont know were to put my self

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Sorry your suffering what pain do you get? Im not sleeping very well at all either its horrible.

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Hi,

Not too long ago I fell and scraped my knee when cleaning it I noticed I had 2 holes in it, me being me I didn't visit the Dr as advised to.

Some weeks later my leg started to swell and change to a sunburnt colour. Not wanting a fuss, I did nothing. Later that night, when all was quiet, I suddenly thought OMG its a clot, I am going to have a heart attack. I tried to stop the thoughts but they just got more and more like running away with themselves, tripled etc and by morning I felt I was going to have a heart attack. I managed to txt my ex partner and he came over to help me.

He decided I needed to go to hospital, well this panicked me even more. He dropped at the doors of A & E and he went to park the car. I went slowly up to the desk, the place was absolutely heaving with ill people, I explained my situation, symptons etc and the nurse went off 2 seconds later he called me straight in infront of everyone, this made me panic even more.

I finally saw the nurse, who took bloods, chatted away with me, took loads of details, sent me for an xray, and after some hours said to me.

'this is the worse case of anxiety and panic ive ever seen and I think you need to go down the route of seeing the mental health people in your area.' I felt such a fool, all caused through a grazed knee.

-x-

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Hi thanks for sharing that with me. When i get the chest pain I feel like there is a spark inside trying to ignite & I panic about it I keep checking my pulse as if im just waiting for something terrible to happen its realy horrible.

All the best .

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Hi Cherub, i lost my mum about 7 years ago to cancer and it was mind blowing. it opened up parts of my thoughts and imagination like no other experience. Unfortaunetly when we lose someone we love and care about, it is almost impossible to believe they are no longer here. thats the hardest part of death for me. I know when i lost my mum it took me about 3-4 years to get my head around the fact i wouldnt hear her voice or see her again. But as time goes on I do and have found more peace in my mind and heart about losing her. I can say from experience, it does get better and some how you do come to terms about losing that special person. If anything positive comes out of losing someone, i feel I can help others who are greaving the loss of someone they love and show them a little guidance on how they will feel as time goes on. But please understand you will feel better as time goes on.

I suffer from anxiety, health anxiety and OCD. i dont know if this will help but i am looking into someone who was recomended to me, Carl Sheppard. He works with people who have anxiety / OCD / Depression, etc. You might find some of his information on his website helpful for what you are experiiemnce at the moment. He offers worshops for anxiety sufferers and also has a book for anxiety.

I can totally relate to shooting pains in my chest. i have seen the doctor, been to the hospital and no medication / doctor has been able to put me straight. so i am looking at other methods to heal me. take care and i hope you feel better soon. you're not alone and this forum is excellent for when you are having a bad day. xxxxx

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Thanks for sharing that with me Katherine I am definitely still grieving & still not come to terms with loosing my father I break down every time I visit his grave I miss him so much. Im waiting for results regarding my chest pain I had a 24hr monitor fitted last week & would you believe it I didn't experience much pain although there was some. Thankyou for the information and all the best to you. Xx .

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Hi I'm new to this i found your story through google! I started feeling the same symptoms just last night in my sleep and now it doesn't go away the only thing I can think of is me loosing my job a month ago and I've been applying everywhere an nothing either than that I think I should be fine but it's really scaring me like to the point that it makes me think it's a bad feeling and something bad is coming my way idk I sound nuts but I'm really scared and I don't know how to deal with it all I do is pray for me and my family! I'm scared!!!

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Hi Carla

it's really scary I can't believe how anxiety can effect us it's so cruel. Some night's I feel if I go to sleep I won't wake up but I always do. This is a really good site Carla keep posting on here it's so helpful & at times when we are rock bottom some friendly reassurance is just what we need to hear.

keep praying all the best to you xx

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Lfa nae Osca...l get many different feelings.From dizziness , chest pain, fogginess, nausea, just feelings of unreality...We all know how you feel and yes, it is frightening...Z Family can turn on you and are not always there for you...it is really not the Christian thing to do. Jesus was there for all of us. He never never will leave us. I am NOT a Jesus fanatic but I do find if we gather more faith in ourselves, and lied more toward Jesus 4 these things, it helps a lot. When you find peace of mind, a lot of the fear will subside. You will not feel as lonely and as abandoned as you are by for friends and family. We all love you and we all need to pray for one another. I wish you the best and God bless you.

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Me as well, feel as though I am afraid to go to sleep. I dont know why.. and I always get like this cold flash and head pressure

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I have had the same issues. However, reading this post has helped. I am going to make a post to see if writing about it helps also. I wish you well.

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