advice?

[storm2243]

A little back story, I have been with the same man for 15 years. We have a 13 year old son, witch I don't agree how he parents (yes I have told him) . Because of decisions he has made we have become "homeless" (staying with friends). I NEED to get out of my friends house for many reasons but I can not do it with out him financially . I have finally been able to "grow a backbone" and tell him how it is but I can not afford rent without his help. Do I stay with him and endure unhappiness or go to a shelter? Those are my only choices.

[CL3V3R-G1RL]

It sounds like you are no longer in a relationship but a situation-ship. You don't care for him anymore but do to finance, you're feeling like you are stuck with him. Don't feel bad I know a lot of couples that are in the same boat. In fact the person who cuts my hair says that's what him and his wife are. They don't leave because they figure we're too old to go back in the dating pool or what the hassle of finding new places to live etc.

However you have expressed your unhappiness. And staying with him even if he somehow finds better work or if you find work and able to move. Question is will it change your opinion of him if you all where in a different environment? Or will you still feel the same towards him?

If the answer is that it won't change your feelings towards him. Then a shelter might be the best place. I suggest once you go to a women's shelter and let them know you have a teenager and are homeless and you need a case aid/ case worker. They will work with you to get you into section 8 housing asap. Because they really don't want mother's to be homeless. They will help you try to find some type of employment. So you can be self reliant.

I wish you peace and love 🫂 ❤️

[blackcat64013]

Hi,You need to set some boundaries for yourself. Either you want to work on the relationship or part ways.

Your don't need the stress in the long term. Your health will be affected.

Some legal advice about your situation would be invaluable, especially in a long term relationship. Alimony to support both of you should be possible should you decide to walk away.

Just do your research and

have a plan before you do. Time is on your side while you stay with friends and feel safe.

All the best as you ponder your next move 💜 🐈‍⬛