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lately after almost surviving a near death experience over 2 an half years ago and realizing my friends were never truly my friends and going to a job I dread; all I can think about at times is what the afterlife is like. I don’t wanna die yet; even though the loneliness and panic attacks kill me slowly each and every day.
I am curious what you think purpose of life is and what afterlife is like? Life is passing by so quickly. I’m 40 and haven’t achieved much. Any thoughts?
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The purpose of life is that we evolve to a higher form. What comes after this life? You say you had a near death experience: there is an online forum that contains literally thousands of records of NDEs which give some idea.
Purpose of life is over-rated. Millions of people out there don't have a purpose in life. they just trudge thru each day and put one foot in front of the other and don't think about 1 week from now.
most people's purpose are their kids - procreating and passing their genes on and carrying on the family name. isn't that the whole point of humans? to procreate and continue the human race?
those people that HAVE a purpose in life, have healthy self-esteems, and a healthy social network. like religious people.
interesting perspective. I think it’s the fact that I don’t want to have kids and each day is a struggle that makes me question life. You’re right for those that have children and continue their family line life holds purpose. Thank you
I think there are MANY planes of existence all happening simultaneously with MUCH higher beings of intelligence than us barbaric humans. I envision planet earth to be a nursery in the universe, of sorts, for growing enlightened homo sapiens into higher functioning life forms. We keep coming back over and over again in different forms and species until we get our "universal education" and graduate into a higher plane of existence. When I meet people I have an instant karmic attraction 🧲 to, I believe we've had ties in previous lifetimes.
I feel like I've been here countless times. I've been called an "Old soul" since I was a youngster.
I don't really know what my purpose is right now...but I'm growing in ways I've never thought possible once I got my depression and anxiety under control. It's baby steps all the way...but progress is measured by inches, not feet.
I don't know if this helps or not...but it's just a little Story I tell myself to keep on keeping on😁💞
I love what you just wrote!! In some ways it reminds me of what I think is one of the points of the movie, "Everything, Everywhere All at Once." Multiverses and reincarnation! I can understand why you were called an "old soul" even when you were a youngster!
apparently we meet the same people over and over like our husband in one life will be our daughter maby in a next life what we got wring we get it right next time my mam always says i hope i get it right with your dad in the next life🤷fate brings people in to our lifes like you too i did say not taking on anymore friends then out the blue i had no choice i had to my dyler lady lol and mushroom lady haha it just instinctively felt right now your stuck with me 🤗🧡🌟🌈
wondered if he capricorn haha re your other reply on helping others
Helped me to read your "story!" I don't have kids (didn't think that I would have made a good Mother with All the Fears, Anxiety, Panic when I was younger). I guess, I made the right choice not to have kids; but, sure wish I could have IF Only I had been physically & Mentally. Purpose is different for everyone, I suppose. I had a Wonderful Sig. Other who passed away last Nov. & now I feel Very lost & alone. Just trying to get through the Grief, just doing day by day now! Have read A lot about NDE's & find it fascinating. Don't know about an Afterlife --could be --
Hi weatherwoman! I feel same way. I often wonder what my life would have been like if I was healthy mentally. I feel I would have true friends and a life I would be proud of. I’m so sorry for your loss I can’t even begin to imagine such grief.
I hope time heals your pain and you find love again. I have read some too.. the afterlife is a mystery.
I appreciate you kind words & acknowledgement of my loss. It's hard to even talk about my Dear Mike as my family & friends don't want to hear too much, or don't know what to say, or can't relate. So, I seem to be depending "on the kindness of strangers!" My Grief Counselor, and Grief Support Group are helpful. They do say that time is a healer --I hope so --I hear from some others in our group who have lost spouses (this is primarily a group for people who have lost their spouse, or Sig. Other) I have heard others who have lost spouses that in a year, or two that the pain & grief though always there is not as intense as in the earlier Months. I hope so. We all grieve at a different pace.
If I asked my 94-year-old father what the purpose of life is, he would say it's something George Bailey learns in the movie "It's a Wonderful Life" starring Jimmy Stewart. It is about assisting others, helping your community, and being a decent person. It is also about believing you made the world a little better because you were there. And it is not so much about what you achieved or the money you made as the help you gave others.
So, although it may be old-fashioned, I think there may be some sense in what my father believes. ❤️
Some may wonder if it is even worth spending time searching for the answer. However, trying to ignore your question is like trying to ignore a pebble in your shoe—you can continue walking, but your journey will be an unhappy one.
What is the purpose of life?
Rather than offering speculation or philosophy, why not ask the Life giver?
Certainly, knowing that we were created & that our Creator cares for us lays the foundation for gaining real peace of mind.
I believe at death the experience of having a separate body and mind is over. Deep sleep is a taste of death . No sense of self. No suffering. Nirvana.
The purpose of life is ours to choose. Usually it’s to make us feel worthwhile, but even if we choose, we can’t control everything that life throws at us. The best laid plans……..etc. Therefore, as humans, our choices sometimes have to change and we are forced to adapt to our environment. Evolution…..to evolve. Evolve is a term created by the ego humans have who believe that we are superior and our evolution will be forever going forward to a higher and higher plane. So far, Ive seen humans change from their beginning, but not evolving to a superior or higher plane. I won’t go into detail why for respect of others feelings. It’s pretty obvious why, though. I like simplicity….there’s no guarantee of anything else but this moment, so make this moment count and choose something that gives you purpose for that moment.
I’m aware that humans are a blink of time in the cosmos and everybody has their own perception of how things are, but it’s great to have dreams for without dreams we’d still be in caves. Oops! I’m inferring that “evolution “ has been good. 😂 Well, it has had its upsides.
The purpose of life is at present ours to choose, we evolve naturally, under natures wings it's permission, we supposedly are number one in earths evolution, we certainly believe that, although our arrogance is spoiling this planet, 🌎Earth! I like to enjoy the goodness of this planet, not overuse it, enjoy it's beauty, which has been caused by simple evolution! We have to adapt and respect with this but not try to try to "better" this mode with the likes of mans technology🙄 Certainly evolution has it's 'faults' but man MUST learn and adapt from these 'oddities', that is it present aim at present! Respect on either side👍 or all of 🌍will suffer!
Doh! you should come to Norn Irelan , they are still more worried about which type of religion you are defined by, prod or taig, nothing changes here😒 just had local Council elections!
Seriously no reinventingmyself36 a life changing moment can really change your way of looking at this world, right from the boots upward, I myself had one when trying to commit suicide, in 2017, a real moment of light, really fixed my beliefs, what I believed then was right for me, became more entrenched in them!👍
Oh I’m sorry life led you down such a horrific path that you wanted to commit suicide. I’m glad to hear you didn’t! I almost died from a perforated ulcer caused by drinking too much and taking too many painkillers.. and that’s why I often think of afterlife and my purpose. In addition I can’t connect to others and make friends so loneliness makes me think of it more often. What are your beliefs now?
I have epilepsy essentially in 2017 I was on Fycompa, after 50 years of epilepsy quite honestly the worst epilepsy medication I have EVER been on, side effects of that 'stuff' drew me to the edge! I have been an Agnostic for over forty years, that episode hardened my resolve!
oh Adlon57, I’m so sorry your going thru such hell. I can’t imagine. I understand why it’s hard to believe in God when experiencing such pain. I just hope life gets better for you
Its more living in Northern Ireland, here it was either one religion or the other, I chose neither, I almost want to thank Northern Ireland and its "Troubles", I evolved my beliefs over the years, being an Agnostic, and am proud now and surprised to have found a considerable amount of people have gone down a similar path, not many things as far as I am concerned work like that in Northern Ireland🤔😆
Wow! this sounds so much like exactly how I feel too. I hate coming to my job every day. I hate that over my 38 years of work life I've given my all to the companies I've worked for, literally blood, sweat, and tears and for what? Nothing, no promotions that resulted in a real advance in salary, no vision of a future with the companies I've been with. I'm 54 and besides my first job in a restaurant, I'm only at my third job.
I only have an associates degree and have thought about going back to finish a bachelors but I dread the thought of having to study business! I don't know that anything I might enjoy doing would pay enough. I am married and do have one son. My wife is on disability and just late last year, prior to that she wasn't working or earning any income for 4 years, which has drained everything we had, financially.
I was just diagnosed with bladder cancer. I will be having bladder removal surgery within the next month. Then, after that, I can look forward to coming back to the same crappy job! I can't fathom, I'm having my f***king bladder removed (and prostate) and am the only financial support for my household.
oh I’m so sorry to hear that your going thru such horrific and awful pain in your life. I hope the bladder surgery goes well and you will be cancer free! It’s not fair you are going thru so much. I really hope things will get better for you and your family!
I often think of afterlife too! I want to develop a more deeper connection to God. I agree there’s more to life than selfish desires. How do you pursue that unselfish lifestyle ?
I love this post, love to hear about the supernatural, afterlife, reincarnation.
There was an article this weekend about a kid obsessed with making dresses at 4 yrs old who claims he was Gucci. He did have grandparents in the fashion industry but parents said he didn't really know anything about that.
There was a show I loved and you could watch it on YouTube called the Ghost within my child. About all these kids who knew stuff from former lives. And they went and confirmed it.
Hi, this is a beautiful question that has been important for me for quite some time now. I have tried approaching it from different vantage points. I will share two different perspectives that resonated with me hoping this benefits you.
Approach 1: Who decides my purpose?
What is the purpose of life, or what is my purpose in this life? The other day, my four year old picked up my phone and asked me what is this? I said an iphone, and he replied, what is it for?
Although i responded to him, but it triggered a deeper question within. How do i know the purpose of an iphone? I may have my own perspective of what the purpose should be, but can i really know its purpose unless i know WHO created it and WHAT was the purpose of creating it. What was the VISION the creator had for the phone? This would be the true soul purpose. So even if someone uses an iphone as a Paperweight, the iphone is not serving its purpose. Although it may be the best paperweight in comparison to all other paperweights but it still is not living its purpose. The iphone has the potential to be a paperweight, a phone, a device to use internet, connect with others etc. but its potential can be many yet its purpose can only be defined by the one who created it.
Now this approach leads me to first ask myself as to who am I and who created me. This is the journey i embarked on personally. If this resonates with you, happy to share more experience.
Approach 2: Why am i seeking my purpose?
When i asked this question at different phases and ages of my life i received different answers.
When i was in my early 20s, i asked what my purpose was because i was confused what i wanted to do in life. (emotion: confusion, not confident)
When i was in my early 30s, i asked what my purpose was because i was exhausted with what i was doing. (emotion: confident but unfulfilled, dissatisfaction)
In my early 40s, i had become confident on what i was doing, enjoyed my work yet felt something was missing and hence asked what my purpose was. (emotion: something is missing kind of feeling)
Reflecting back, it seems like I was asking the same question to address different emotions. - - First it was confusion and lack of confidence- how can i be significant and have certainty in life?
- then it was exhaustion- how can i bring more energy and enthusiasm to what i do? Am i doing what I value?
- then it was how much more do I have to do to feel fulfilled on a continuous basis?
The underlying theme was i had specific expectations of my self at each of these points in life which were not being met. So i went through a journey of uncovering and understanding myself better, revealing what my conscious and subconscious expectations were of myself, questioning these expectations to remove unrealistic or conflicting ones. Am i better? Yes absolutely, but am i done? Nopes, still a work in progress.
If the second approach resonates better, happy to share more experience.
this is incredibly insightful. I feel I was always lost but now that I’m 40 I’m even more confused with why I’m alive still and what my purpose is. I dread my career.
I have questions like you do but as each day passes I get more depressed and feel I lack purpose. Thank you for your blessing and I wish the same to you and your family. I’m not sure where I’m at.
I just joined this group today looking for support and like minded people, and yours was the first post I read. I think that was no accident.
I had a near death accident in '98 and it totally knocked me out of a life I hated and allowed me to bit by bit create one I love. I didn't see anything but blackness, either, but it was calm and peaceful and I was good with it. Then poof, I was back here.
There has been a lot of pain and soul searching along the way in the 25 years since then. I'm now a practicing Hindu in a sect that believes the Multiverse is just the body of the Goddess who sprang into form to have experiences. I can do my spiritual practices and merge with that Oneness and experience pure bliss, but when I come back to the relational world, the disparities hit me hard.
This societal structure we've allowed to be imposed upon us is brutal. No one should be forced to go to work in a soul sucking job every day. No wonder so many of us have anxiety and depression!
But to your question, I've been wrestling with my purpose again lately, as have a lot of my friends. I try to be active doing work to support those trying to change public policy around access to housing, food, and healthcare in the US, and just get beat down further and further by the seeming futility of it all. Perhaps the purpose of life is to reach out to others and to learn to expand our capacity to be able to hold more and more of it so we can support each other on our way through it.
At this point, though, I'm pivoting to learn to take better care of myself so I don't expose myself to so much that is distressing. I'm unable to work due to recent trauma that triggered my old anxiety disorder. I'm struggling to find the motivation to do the little bit of gig work I have in order to make my rent. If I don't feel like I'm helping others, I find little motivation to do anything else. So it's really hard to find the balance. Humans have so much potential for good, and yet most of us are enslaved by the greedy. It's heart breaking.
thank you for sharing your detailed experience. It’s so Imp to take care of oneself and I hope you’re doing better. I’m still on this journey and it’s so hard. I hope your doing well
told a story before here about my near death experience wont go over the whole story but I remember feeling a little drunk worse for wear having O`D as well remember most of my time leading up to the nearest moment everything began going all greyish and fuzzy like I was heading to the other side then the next thing I remember is visions of my dad and sister in the room and having been shocked or whatever back to life and then being violently sick don`t recall my dad and sister in the room before it wish I used that night as a stepping stone in the right direction rather than hoping I didn`t survive but whatever that few seconds or minutes was it felt I was as close to whatever comes next as you can get.
I think the purpose of life is to learn, love and be the best person you can be. I think the afterlife is bright and beautiful and you will be reunited with your loved ones. I also believe we are reincarnated until we get life right.
I heard we are reincarnated a lot into different species. You make a great point with learning, loving, and being best person one can be. It’s hard with no true friends and a job one dreads. Thanks
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