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I've been away for a while. Sorry for the lack of responses.

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I'm under a lot of stress now. It's getting worse. I'm getting sick from it.

A couple days ago, at the store, I had a major problem, and tried to get home. I was doing bad and was afraid to drive on the major roads. So I took side roads and residential streets and drove at a very slow speed, trying to get home, but it didn't work. I had a couple cars lean on their horns that my speed was a problem. Then, when I almost caused a major accident cutting someone off when I made a turn, I pulled right off the road.

There were a couple women in a restaurant parking lot where I'd stopped, and I asked them for help. I said my husband wouldn't take my calls, would they call him for me and say I was having bad trouble and needed a ride home.

One of the women told me to turn off my car and not try to drive again. Car off, yes, right. He ignored their calls at first, but finally answered and agreed to get me and take me home. Before they left, one of the women said to dial the police if he didn't come. I guess she meant for an ambulance.

I've spent a couple days vomiting and having diarrhea -- and afraid to drive.

The conditions at home are bad bad bad. I'm not managing.

I'm sorry for posting and then not responding. I'll do my best today.

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Mrspjsmom

No need to apologize. I'm so sorry you are going through this. You don'tdeserve to be treated this way. We have your back. Also sending positive thoughts and hugs.

How does he sleep this way?
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Nothing_but_books in reply to Mrspjsmom

It must be comfortable. From what I know of cats, they always manage to grab the most comfortable spots.

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Mrspjsmom in reply to Nothing_but_books

There's an Oliver sized dent in that cushion. Now I don't have to worry about him falling off the couch. He's quite the little character but I love him.

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Nothing_but_books in reply to Mrspjsmom

But me no buts: And you love him, each and every little "quirk".

I know. My baby has a few of her own.

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Mrspjsmom in reply to Nothing_but_books

They all do.

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Starrlight

You did good having the ladies call for you. My heart goes out to you as I know trouble with driving while having panic attacks and this trouble you had seems similar to that maybe?

I hope you are feeling safer now.

We are here for you and don’t worry about responding to us; do not stress about that.

I’m saying a prayer that the angels watch over you, beautiful friend. I wish I could hug you in real life ((((((((((((hug)))))))))))

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Nothing_but_books in reply to Starrlight

All the angels. My friends. I remember.

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Starrlight in reply to Nothing_but_books

Hey you’re still up too at 11:30 I see. How are you doing? I took the kiddos out Trick-or-treating and had a friend over watch The Sixth Sense.

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Nothing_but_books in reply to Starrlight

I don't know. I did my best today. It'll take time to find my way out.

It almost feels like things are finding a kind of post-Covid normal. There were trick-or-treaters here too.

What'd you think? I can't watch it. It's too depressing for me.

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Starrlight in reply to Nothing_but_books

Your best is always enough; better than enough. I love the movie.

I agree it feels post vivid to me too.

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b1b1b1

You have said that your husband is not well. As this is the case, you will be able to count on him less and less as time goes by. I think it is imperative that you work on trying to make alternative plans. I believe I have suggested this in the past and I wonder if there is a reason you are unable to look into alternatives. The current situation. is not good for your physical or mental health.

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Nothing_but_books in reply to b1b1b1

I don't disagree. It rarely leaves my mind.

It isn't only the future though. There's now. And now.

It's called trauma friend.

This: I utterly lost my autonomy. I was starved until I knew I would die. I begged to no avail.

It's a maze; a trap. I can't find my way out.

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b1b1b1 in reply to Nothing_but_books

Talk to a psychiatrist, emergency room physician, police, etc. You are being abused and I understand that you feel helpless to act. There are groups and services that help abused and (as you say) traumatized people to find better situations. If things are as bad as you indicate - that is, you are starving/living on ensure, in constant pain and unable to leave your house, there is help available for you. Personally, I would start with the emergency room of a major hospital. When they see that you are malnourished, physically and mentally in pain and unable to help yourself in shopping for and cooking meals, etc., I think some help will be forthcoming. Hospitals, at least in the US are not allowed to release patients back into extremely unsafe conditions. I hope you can find some help.

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Dolphin14

I'm sorry you are feeling unwell and still struggling

Sending love your way

❤️🐬

Hi, it's me, Herman
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Nothing_but_books in reply to Dolphin14

Can't be. It's not possible. He's getting more beautiful in every photo.

Best thing you could have done for me today. Thank you Dolphin.

Does Herman allow hugs? If yes, will you hug him for me?

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Dolphin14 in reply to Nothing_but_books

NBP

It makes me happy that my little man can make you smile.

Yes, Herman will allows hugs. He also likes a little kiss on the head. I will give him both from you

❤️❤️

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Starrlight in reply to Dolphin14

He looks so handsome, as always.

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Dolphin14 in reply to Starrlight

Soup

Thank you he gives me such joy. He's on his wheel now. Show NBP Coco. I bet she would love it :)

❤️🐬

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Starrlight in reply to Dolphin14

Thankd for reminding me! I meant to leave a Coco pic…

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Nothing_but_books in reply to Dolphin14

She would.

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❤️❤️

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Agora1

I'm sorry for your stress NBP. Sending my love xx

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Nothing_but_books in reply to Agora1

Hi. I'm doing what I can to manage it -- does buying bags of Halloween candies count? They look pretty good.

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Agora1 in reply to Nothing_but_books

Trying to do anything counts...Achieving the goal deserves a "high 5"

I just closed the lights outside...Another busy year with Trick or Treaters.

Tonight is my time to relax and breathe.

I suggest you do the same my friend :) xx

Oh boy. I know you’re going through a lot. I know you must be very stressed out. Have a cup of chamomile tea or some warm cocoa and just breathe. Listen to some music that calms you down or soothes you. I like to listen to classical music sometimes. Stuff like Moonlight Sonata by Beethoven or Greensleeves. And I know I sound like Scarlett OHara or something, but tomorrow is another day. Take a break and chill out.

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Oh it's too late to drink anything or I'll be up all night peeing. Ginger chai is my favorite calming tea.

Moonlight Sonata? I used to love that piece when I was little. Okay, I'll look for a decent version, thanks.

Maybe you'll like this? I find it calming.

youtube.com/watch?v=zwmg9DK...

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I love it already, thanks!!! I’m not that into Frank Sinatra, but this is sweet.🙂

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Here, maybe this might help. youtu.be/BxB9N1MmKOY

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Starrlight

With love for you ❤️

Happy Coco
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Nothing_but_books in reply to Starrlight

💜 Coco

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primrose81

Hope that thing get better for you soon, you were so wise to pull over and ask for help xx

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Nothing_but_books in reply to primrose81

I appreciate the well-wishes. The doctors haven't figured out what's going on. It's my fault too, I'm not good about repeat doctor visits. So it keeps happening when I'm very stressed.

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primrose81

I know what you mean, I hate going to the doctor’s at the best of times but hopefully they will realise how stressed you are and will be able to give you something to take the edge off it a bit…xx

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Nothing_but_books in reply to primrose81

Wish you didn't know what I mean, it's horrible.

I've got a prescription that's supposed to help, but since the generic version that helped me has been discontinued, the new one doesn't help much and has worse side effects.

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