And just like that - depression, panic and anger return in a second

[Disneybrain]

I was in a very dark place a few weeks back, found this group and used many of the suggestions- I thank you all!

I had lost my job and everything was crumbling.

I had found a few new jobs, the 1st had bright red flags , luckily I was a temp so when they offered permanent I respectfully DECLINED.

2nd job something new all around. I have a nice office, made it through training with rave reviews. I started to clean office and I was told Not to get comfortable!!!!!!!!! I’m supposed to be manager. But they are moving me to a corner of another office to share. It is so dirty in there. I don’t want to go in there.

All of a sudden I’m being told, they hired 2 people at same time but didn’t want to double up on training so she starts in 2 weeks!!!! Wtf .

All I feel is SHADY stuff going on here.

I was trying not to like it but I did and now I feel I need to go back to interviewing again.

the person training me (who just told me today yet he said he knew about other hire)

I told him how I feel but of course he insists they are very happy with me. I don’t trust anything now.

they were desperate to fill this position and it was all new to me ( they knew) however I feel they found some one with experience in this industry so now they don’t need me.

This is killing ne. My funds are at zero I can’t find a doctor I’m all alone. I feel so taken advantage of.

At this point all I can do is continue to go to work each day, send out resumes and try to keep my chin up.

thank you for reading my troubles. I have no one where I live and my family is sick of me being SAD my entire life. I need help so badly

[Raggedy-Ann]

I understand your stress. Temping is a trip. I say act as if the other hire doesn't exist. Learn all you can. Right now you have the job. Enjoy the people and process. You have a two week head start. Never bring up the other hire if someone else brings them up smile as it has little importance to you. Once they like you it will be harder to let you go. I hope it works out. If not, Xerox your face and hang it on the bulletin board with a note, "I was here" ...

[Disneybrain in reply to Raggedy-Ann]

lmbo! Xerox copy made me laugh!

[Disneybrain]

I’m just sick over this. Employers complain they can’t find employees BUT they lie to people or they have no idea what they are doing. This is now the 2nd job I have been permanently hired for and they change my roll WITHOUT EVEN DISCUSSING it with me. It’s so disrespectful and leaves me feeling stupid for putting my all into the position.

You would think they want to keep good employees.

It stinks but I am going to have to put a fake f happy face on and act like I’m ok. I was ok before they lied or hid the other new hire.

Who gets hired for a job and starts a month later?

It’s ok if they don’t like me or I’m not working out BUT TALK TO ME!!!! It’s the sneaky bs. This company is going to leet me go after new person is trained but would expect me to give 2 weeks notice if I left.

Or if they want to change my position TALK TO ME! Don’t just change it and be like ok you do this now 😢😢😢😢😢.

Am I expecting to much? I’m so sad and feeling again like I just don’t belong. And no one respects me. I just don’t matter

[catsrock in reply to Disneybrain]

You are not expecting too much. It is infuriating to me when people don't communicate and they should be letting you know what's going on. Sorry you are going through this.

[Disneybrain in reply to catsrock]

thank you! That’s all I expect is honest communication. Especially in the business world.

It’s no wonder most places are short staffed and can’t find good employees. They are terrible employers

[my2bordercollies]

Hi, I am sorry you are dealing with all of this. I'm here if you want to chat. My family is pretty supportive but they think if I get a job all if my anxiety will vanish. They really have no idea. I am 60 yrs old. I haven't worked in a few years since I suffered a ruptured brain aneurysm. I lost vision in my right eye and have some memory issues. My husband has a good job so it really isn't necessary that I go back to work.

Hope you can have a good day and message me if you want to chat

Susan

[Disneybrain in reply to my2bordercollies]

thank you